In today's culture we're defined by what we do and how productive we are. Stripped of this we can feel lost and purposeless. We've become human doings instead of human beings. Regaining our joy and purpose in life requires a new relationship with time.
If there's one thing you do for yourself this week, it's to take a good hard look at what's keeping you so busy. What are you avoiding? What are you trying to not do or face or decide?
One of my all-time favorite movies is the 1991 'L.A. Story' where Steve Martin plays a confused TV weatherman who takes his life cues from a talking freeway sign. In that same vein, my wine bottle just spoke to me. When the cork popped out, it said 'Plan some spontaneity.'
Your soul can become contaminated, polluted, dark, and diseased just like any part of your body that is neglected and battered by the get-up-and-go, rush, hurry, got-to-do-it-now heartbeat of modern living.
Each of us is made up of eternal forces -- part masculine, part feminine, part animal. Often, our creativity and our proximity to our aliveness depends on how well we know these forces as they visit us and live in us.
Giving yourself a "real" break might be something like: eating healthy, going for long walks, focussing on what brings you joy and energy and just going to bed when you are tired.
We can't eliminate the stress. But we can relieve the fight-or-flight response that sends our bodies into danger mode. And we can cultivate a relaxation response over time that will reduce our physiological stress reaction.
Although the words "hurry up" did little if nothing to increase my child's speed, I said them anyway. Maybe even more than the words, "I love you." The truth hurts, but the truth heals... and brings me closer to the parent I want to be.
When you can shift into a cognitive mode, and become aware of what's happening to you and questioning the source, as opposed to getting caught up in an anger-fueled rage, you're far more likely to calm that emotion, and less likely to make a decision you'll regret.
Compare the usual, quick-fading vacation with one where you study a mental discipline like yoga, Tai Chi, or meditation, or master an exercise for physical relaxation. These give us a method for an inner vacation that we can continue once we are back, a way to regularly prime our better moods.
They're called iceberg beliefs because only the tip is in our conscious awareness. The rest lies under water, below the level of awareness. Like a real iceberg, these thoughts can be difficult to steer around and can even sink the ship.
There are plenty of daily workplace interpersonal interactions that contribute to stress, the largest area of workers compensation claims, but an area that is not considered frequently in regards to stress is the interaction between recruitment and candidates.
As chief medical officer Ashley Anderson Jr. puts it: "a healthy workforce is a productive workforce."
Mentors know what is close to your heart. They may be a someone with the title "coach" or they can have a less formal role. I found my mentors when I least expected it.
I spend a great deal of time in planes, on my way to and from. In this poem, I tripped into a moment of seeing myself as the grown son of a man I am more like than I realized.
I'm not alone. A 55-year-old looking to land a new job is considered 'old' and certainly, expensive. The longer we are living in our modern day and age, the more urgent it is becoming that 'old' be defined by something other than a number.
I get to the bottom from my driveway and think, "How am I gonna do this?" But before I can answer, I put one foot on the first step, pull up with hand on rail, slowly lift my foot to the next step and then, using my core, drag/hoist the cart up to the step below where my feet are.
Most individuals say they never realized such empowerment was possible, but once they experience it, they can't imagine living any other way.
There are endless ways to invoke your true home, your stillness, and deepest identity. In the coming weeks we will discover them together. Until then, breathe! And 10,000 blessings to you from all directions!
Remember that you are a powerful being and one of the greatest powers you have lies in surrendering to something even larger and more powerful than you.