Stepmamas -- you are Jeannie. And you are pissed off and irritated because you think your stepkids' mom is doing something and getting away with it. And you're not doing what she's doing because you play by a set of rules that she doesn't play by.
We need a society that offers opportunities to care for ourselves and our families. However, those who live only for money and power are usually miserable in all aspects of their lives and bring deep unhappiness to all those who rely on them.
The constructs upon which I co-built my family are different now. We have been through upheaval in more ways than one. We have learned that upheaval is the natural course of life. It doesn't have to be "bad" or scary or resisted.
You will lose your job. You will have your heart broken. The person you admired will disappoint you. You will make mistakes that you'll regret. You will fall. And you will get up. Life's curveballs are inevitable, therefore position yourself so that the "getting up" part is not so crippling.