When you treat LGBTQ Catholics as "secular society" rather than as your brothers and sisters in Christ, you poison the sources of grace for them. For that matter, when you treat LGBTQ non-Catholics as a particular species of sinner rather than as images of God like yourself, you have broken the Great Commandment.
We've had a rich life as a couple and as a family. In lots of ways we are very similar to many other families across the U.S. We've also had some challenges that other families don't have to deal with. Some have been cultural and legal, but those that have had the deepest impact have been religious.