From the moment a child draws their first breath they are independent human beings. They rely on us for many years, but as parents we need to understand they do not belong to us. If we can truly understand that, we make a huge step to being able to walk alongside them, wherever their journey takes them.
On the one hand, there's a lot of denial going with our emphasis on youth in gay male culture. On the other, there was a whole generation of gay men who perished during the AIDS crisis meaning that today's Boomers and Gen-Xers don't necessarily have a road map to follow from those who came before us.