While more states are recognizing same-sex couples' right to marry, there is still an enormous amount of work to be done to secure social justice for all. Ensuring that our families are recognized by the federal tax code is a queer issue. Updating our tax code must remain a key component of advancing freedom, equality, and justice for LGBTQ people.
I have worked for years educating the gay and straight community alike that my family structure is just as good for raising children as any other, so I feel the need to respond to Heather Barwick, a daughter of gay moms, who believes her family structure (my family structure) was detrimental to her upbringing.
We consider ourselves extremely lucky that we are both interested in managing our finances without an expensive adviser and wonder why so many people whether single or attached don't. With many couples it is usually one who is trying to get his or her spouse interested, or the differences are similar to ours, one is overly aggressive and the other is overly conservative.
Our twins were due in two months via surrogacy in India, where clinics are prohibited by law from revealing the gender of a fetus. I'm half-Jewish, and while I'm not religious, Jake wanted to be certain that my children remained culturally "members of the Tribe." I was unconvinced that that required subjecting them to an optional surgical procedure.
There is much more to be done to ensure that the LGBT community is endowed with the same rights as all humans across the globe. But what I saw in Hungary last month gives me hope. People like Tim Cook give me hope. And my own son helps me believe that we will someday bring about real change in the world for justice for all.
My imaginary friend Stella and I, having fled an Italy crushed by inequity, thought at the time that there was precious little to lose. But Italy is changing. For real. And Stella and I are changing along with her. For us it's a wonderful breath of fresh air to realize that there is still a country we can return to, and for which we can still have hope.
I live in Alabama, and as most people know the south can be a very conservative place. Aside from God's love, my family is the principal source of my happiness. Like many of the SEALs I have worked with, I am willing to fight and die to protect that. Unfortunately, this state does not recognize my family, a fact that is beyond disheartening.