When you feel the freedom to be yourself and express yourself completely (thank you, Madonna), your love shines brightly. You gain a greater appreciation for your partner and you feel good being able to be YOU, to be out of the closet of secrets
Instead of dating to find Mr. or Mrs. Right, date to learn more about yourself and what makes you happy. Make it less about getting the ring and more about discovering what makes you want to give someone a ring. And use each relationship to hone in on what your ideal life will be like.
Forty years ago I came out as lesbian and discovered Metropolitan Community Church (MCC). I met couples who had been together for 40 or 50 years who had lived through difficult times of government intrusion on personal privacy.