Instead of dating to find Mr. or Mrs. Right, date to learn more about yourself and what makes you happy. Make it less about getting the ring and more about discovering what makes you want to give someone a ring. And use each relationship to hone in on what your ideal life will be like.
Forty years ago I came out as lesbian and discovered Metropolitan Community Church (MCC). I met couples who had been together for 40 or 50 years who had lived through difficult times of government intrusion on personal privacy.
What started out as one short film about a 54-year love story between two men became a series of 10-minute documentary portraits telling six diverse stories of LGBTQ love -- love that's missing from the landscape of stereotypes, comic relief and victims.