My brother and I accepted our mother's version of the affair that produced our sister with few questions, even though Lydia looks completely different from the rest of us. Mom is a long-legged Latina, but my brother and I take after our father. We're both tall blonds. Lydia is petite and cinnamon-coffee dark with tightly curled blue-black hair.
A truthache is something we hide or avoid that hurts us. The ache is the symptom we get from not being totally honest. Truth archaeology is the practice of digging into our truthaches to gain more clarity, confidence and purposefulness in our lives. It's about delving into dark places compassionately and purposefully.