Even after all the internal strife, I was nowhere near choosing a career when I was about to graduate from college. I dreaded the "What are your career plans?" questions and purposefully avoided my parents' friends and anyone I thought might ask me those.
In a world where we're constantly pushing happiness over the horizon, our views of what success means is often skewed. Pretty soon our batteries to our inner flashlight start to wear out. Then, all at once we can't seem to turn on the switch again.
We can pretend that it's "if we die" but the reality is it's "when." Being cognizant of that helps me live more authentically and clearly. Because my goal is to come to the end of my life and to honestly be able to say to myself that I have no regrets.
I am attached to my children. My desire for my children to be well, happy and peaceful will not waiver. I felt the strength of this commitment especially last summer, when my oldest daughter sustained a head injury.
It can be really frustrating trying to build a life and business that you love, when you are so all over the place on the inside. Especially when you are really trying to create consistency in your business.
When I watch your show it makes me really sad sometimes. Your audience gets breakouts on their faces, gets bad hair cuts, looks bloated sometimes and some of them have wrinkles when they smile. It's all a part of having a whole, perfect and complete human body.
When we're willing to look underneath the surface, we can discover the truth of who we are and the real healing can begin. It might not be easy but if I could do it, anyone can. All you need is the willingness, the desire to change your life.
When I try to push fear away or drown it by eating too much, drinking or avoiding, it comes back even stronger. Instead, when I recognize the fear and face it, just like I did on that dark cliff in Hong Kong, then I can disable it.
If you really want to love your body, then you've got to first love your life. That means loving yourself enough to pursue that dream you've been keeping on the shelf. Stop being obsessed with your body. Start being obsessed with your life.
If I didn't go through the lows, I wouldn't have ever taken the time to unlearn the mistruths spoken over me. I wouldn't have quit my job and founded my own business. I wouldn't be in a healthy relationship with someone whole who loves the whole version of me equally back.
It is so important that we claim our vision. Give yourself permission to really engage in the fantasy. What exactly are you looking to accomplish or change in your life? Allow your mind's eye to flow with the vision -- get specific in your daydream.
Most of the things you aren't supposed to say are the things that made me feel better. After reading that, I thought for a moment, Maybe things don't happen for a reason... then what the heck is going on?
Abraham Maslow the famous motivational psychologist once said that, "Until you take care of your lower needs, you will never be able to fulfill your higher needs." The reason most people never fulfill their dreams or goals is because their basic human needs are never met.