I always go back to my checklist of asking if my children are safe, happy, healthy and know how much they are loved. If I am able to check all of those off, than I can go to sleep feeling content.
Here are five ways to help teach your children how to lead through your daily interactions with them.
Divorce and what leads up to it are not tidy and polite affairs. The children who bear witness to the demise of their parents' marriage inevitably get wounded -- some very deeply and invisibly at first.
In order to become healthy adults, children need to be seen and acknowledged on that deeper level. We are all meant to be seen, to have our Being acknowledged, and that applies to adult relationships as well.
From my point of view, there's a little too much sweet myth to what new moms are supposed to feel and do with newborns.
Resilience is fundamental to success. It helps us to adapt and become independent and self-confident.
It's amazing to me how much of our spiritual and emotional problems have clear biological and physical causes. The reason he was so demanding is that his body was hungry, and so his brain went into alarm mode:
How do you know the correct message within a breakup speech? How can you tell if it's definitive, or a threat set up as a test?
When my son goes to sleep, I log onto his game and fix his mistakes. Let me state right now that I'm not proud of this. But I feel compelled to do it. Otherwise, he'll keep getting destroyed and he'll never progress to the cool levels in the game. That's why he's playing the game, right? Right?
I did not deserve the hardship of anorexia. I did not deserve the cruel, ignorant comments of people who viewed anorexia as a phase or cry for attention. But I did deserve recovery. I did deserve the possibility of a fruitful future with sadness and joy, cake during celebrations and hot chocolate in the winter.
Please know that after 15 months of her not sleeping, I have researched sleep tricks on the Internet, talked to the doctor, talked to other moms and tried it all. Yes, EVEN THAT (insert random weird Internet sleep fad here).
It's tempting to remind parents of girls to watch their running commentary on women's clothes or hair or weight or beauty. But so many moms and dads are already out there fighting the good fight for their daughters' self-esteem.
Even when things seem to have gotten as bad as they possibly can, you still have things to be grateful for.
We're too busy in our own heads hashing out the details and thinking about things to notice that we're being given the answer. Or, in many cases, we're being presented with images, words, or people that, for a moment, make the answer clear.
Giftedness is no guarantee for success. In fact, the world is full of gifted failures and yet we, as parents, often hope and pray we have gifted children. This is then a parenting misperception used to validate a parent's sense of worth.
Spineless support is when a parent deliberately leaves the tough decisions and unpopular positions to his ex, so that he can be more popular with his kid by comparison.