Parenthood -- the biggest blessing and most incredible thing that can happen to a couple. However, too often, the couple that once was becomes subsumed in their new role as parents.
Badass parents have an unusual ability to identify their needs and then find a way to meet them -- without whining or playing the victim card. They take responsibility for their choices -- to work (or not), to cook (or not), to take a vacation or stay at home and even their choice to have children.
There are many communication tools but I like to start with these three techniques because they are simple and they help us get back to the basics of why we communicate in the first place; we speak to be understood and we listen to understand.
We're learning the ins and outs of our own exhaustion, our own debilitating frustration, our own shortcomings as parents. We're learning to read each other better, to understand the different types of tired, to notice the I-can't-do-this-anymore looks on each other's faces.
My daughter is 7. I love the way her mind works. I love the young "woman" she is becoming. I do not love the fear (mine, not hers) that comes along with it.
Changing the way you talk to yourself changes everything. Here are steps we can take to teach our children to avoid falling into the trap of self-defeating inner criticism.
First of all, having kids is going to be hard. Really, really hard. You are going to be tired. Scratch that. You are going to be exhausted. Plan on nine consecutive months of never once completing a full sleep cycle. Seriously.
Warm weather. Sunny skies. Beach Days. Family BBQs. Summer is finally here. While kids are rejoicing, parents are freaking out. Sooner or later it hits all parents that kids are home from school for THREE months. That's 90 days of kids all day. Every day.
Kids love to stomp in puddles, fall out of trees, catch frogs in a ditch and ride anything with wheels. Be like they are and experience true freedom before life gives you a mortgage, kids, in-laws, 50 extra pounds, buffoon bosses and irritable bowel syndrome.
When I was a child, my parents often ignored me. It's not that they were unkind to me. It's that they had full lives of their own and didn't like playing Candy Land.
We often have a diluted sense of self; we do not see the magnitude of the greatness inside of us. As a result, most people live within the parameters of the lowest part of their life; they dwell in the basement of their capability.
When I was your age, it was basically impossible to lose a phone. If all else failed, you started at the wall jack and followed the line. There were cellphones, or, as we called them at the time, "carphones." Nobody we knew actually had one, though.
The remarkable truth about each unique stage of life is that it's really not about what you leave behind at all; it's about what you take with you.
I celebrated on May 7 and as a gift to myself -- and you -- I offer insights and strategies about BOLD Living at 49. Why BOLD Living? Well, why not? Life's richer when you write the story you want to live.
"You're going to marry him. Want to know how I know?" Of course I wanted to know how someone knew who my future husband would be. "Because of that," she said. She pointed at him, sitting in the middle of a circle of children. They were all giggling, and they followed him like the Pied Piper.
"I am a portal to Truth, luminous. I am as wide-awake today as I can possibly be. And I am not the only one. I... am... not the only one. Truth is a...