There are some of us who, because of our cultural backgrounds, are expected to walk certain paths even if we cast nary a shadow there. And we continue walking on these life paths even if we don't see the light.
We can do better by engaging in the self-defining process through awareness, exploration, and choice. Sometimes defining self is an outwardly active process, building a family, pursuing a career, attempting a physical feat or giving in relationship to others.
Don't give up because life is different or harder than you expected. Just alter your expectations and plans as needed and expect that to be part of the process. After all, it's not so much about reaching the finish line as it is a matter of developing your skills and abilities and doing your best.
Painting on living flesh is an engrossing experience -- very different from the flat, snowy expanse of a blank canvas rectangle. It gives and participates in the process of painting -- energy and creativity flow both ways.
Discovering what it takes to lead a life that counts is something that has always fascinated me. Judging from the people I've met who live with a sense of regret and hopelessness, it's obvious that we often make mistakes in the pursuit of a meaningful life. But it doesn't have to be that way.
So I'm writing a new book. I haven't completely given up on the first book. After all, I have a number of people who are counting on me to write that book. But for now, my focus has to be on where my heart and soul are taking me.
Most of us are gambling on the biggest risk of all: the bet that we can buy the freedom to do what we want later in life. In order to change the world and the less-than-promising course of history, we must do what we love now.
Because you're human, it's normal to formulate opinions based on information you've accumulated up until the present moment. It's natural and necessary in certain situations -- but not when it comes to your life and who you are.
I think we all from time to time experience that things happen more or less as a coincidence. That we end up in a scenario we didn't see coming. And I think many of us contemplate the thought that things could be different.
Every day, both in life and at work, people make wrong decisions that could have been avoided. Or they make right decisions, but lack the confidence that lets them do away with stress and proceed with vigor. Are these inalterable facts of life, or is there a remedy?
Amongst my friends, being happy isn't enough. Being successful doesn't cut it. Being in a loving relationship is but part of the plan. They want to leave a mark on the world. It is one of the reasons I love them.