Like it or not, we are all energies moving around; taking, giving, bouncing, reacting, and absorbing. All of it reveals who we think we are, how we expect people to treat us, and frankly, what we are presently.
We slaughter the innocent and guilty alike in the United States. As parents, we teach our children that killing is wrong then send them off to war and celebrate when an alleged criminal is put to death.
I never envisioned growing up in a society like this. I'm a 20 year old black male that hates to have to consciously go about my life. I have to consciously make decisions when I'm outside of my home, in society more than I should have.
A lot of upperclassmen friends warned me that freshman year would fly by quickly, and indeed it has. It seems just like yesterday when I was going through the New Students Orientation week, partying in a toga at the Penn Museum.
If there are two things that we don't have in abundance but we wish we did, they would be time and money. Naturally, if people have been using them in conjunction with each other for so long, there must be a reason why. So what is it that so intimately connects these two things?
"Dare to be naive!" I utter that phrase to myself like a mantra. I know that to be astonished by the force of life, by that mystery that keeps us striving and sometimes thriving, is probably our most important assignment.
There is a time and place for a no, a child trying to put a hand in a stove is a classic example. For less time-sensitive endeavors, I always wondered, is there something better than "No, you cannot have ice cream unless you have your dinner," with hands on our hip?
If there's a fictional world you love but you know that it's dark and can negatively impact your mood or actions, then make sure you watch, listen to or read something lighter afterwards to balance it out.
My mom said, "I'm moving out," in the same casual voice I use to order my 7am coffee. I must have blacked out because the only thing I remember from that night is slamming a door and suddenly I'm 15 again: frustrated, emotional and dramatic.
The life of a skeptic can be lonely. I used to wonder if something was wrong with me. As an adult, I now know this is just who I am, down to my bones. And honestly, I wish more people were like me. There, I said it. Now hear me out.
"There are times I will need ropes and ladders and caribiners and helmets just to climb down into myself." Madeline DeVries shatters into shards, tortured by music and memories. She crumbles as her eyes accuse.
According to a hospital director in Nepal: "At the moment of the first tremor, we were performing caesarean sections. We brought the patients outside and successfully completed the surgeries. These doctors and nurses never left the patients."
When we embrace the challenge of using our relationship as a means of self-development we open the possibility of shifting the trajectory not only of our relationship, but also of our life itself. And that is a big deal!