It's important to understand both why children should learn to accept limits and tolerate hearing "no" and how parents struggle with these goals.
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I don't remember my parents worrying about me missing a big party or being concerned how grounding me for two weeks would impact homecoming plans. Why, then, are we so challenged around setting limits for our children?
Why do we struggle so to say NO? We don't want our kids to be mad at us. We don't want to disappoint them. We don't want to sit in the blistering storm of their rage.
Ultimately, good behavior depends on the development of a moral identity -- a child's inner sense of him or her self as a good and helpful person.
Getting a younger child to settle down in the evening, go to bed, (stay there!) and then actually fall asleep is a big challenge for many parents, and one they struggle with nightly.
Every family has their own value system and comfort level with sugar. Figure out your comfort level and consider whether you need to be a bit more flexible, or perhaps more limit setting.
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