Parents who work together and make the best decisions for their child are better off than when a court imposes an order on the family. With that goal in mind, look for a parenting expert or coach in your city. There are also many valuable resources available to you including co-parenting classes and co-parenting books. Finally, don't forget to talk to an attorney in your city for a resource list and tips on how to navigate this process!
I typically agree with much of what David Brooks has to say. However, I'm afraid that he was way off the mark with his article "How Covenants Make Us." Demographic diversity in the United States is a good thing. The problem has to do with the lack of integration and assimilation of demographically diverse communities.