Maybe, in a better world, that is what Valentine's Day would be about? Not celebrating romantic love with awful candies, but remembering love in all its forms -- remembering to send and share it in ever wider and widening circles.
Everyone experiences loneliness sometimes, but most people don't know that it can trigger evolutionarily determined response patterns that actually undermine our ability to connect with others, creating a vicious cycle of pain and isolation.
Many of my clients discuss a feeling of loneliness within their marriages. Often their spouses look at them with confusion or contempt, asking how it's possible to feel alone when they are in fact, in the same house or even room with them a great deal of the time.
You feel like it's all your fault. You feel like your body is failing. So that means you are failing. The reality is, a high-risk pregnancy can happen to anyone. At any time. You didn't do anything wrong. You didn't cause this and you certainly aren't failing.
You don't have to be alone to be lonely. A year ago this time, my life was in a utter chaos. It was as though I was dying a slow, torturous death. I tried everything, from buying Christmas trees and presents to help bring the cheer, to no avail.
Along with the high spirits the holiday season, a package of stress often arrives. This is especially true for divorced couples that struggle over how to make plans that optimize the holidays for themselves and, of course, their children -- who want nothing more than normality.
Nobody -- whether single, in a long-term committed relationship or anything in between -- is completely immune from that often-painful feeling of loneliness. That is, however, until you can see it for what it is: an attitude that's completely within your power to change.
Part of your family wants traditions to stay exactly the same, others want to change everything. Conflicting desires, broken hearts, lots of attention when you'd rather just hide in your blanket fort until the whole thing is over -- it's too much.