But what exactly does working on your relationship really mean? Is it really true that the willingness to do "the work" is the critical factor in determining the quality of your relationships? And what exactly is the work that relationships require anyway?
Being in touch with our yearning, and anchoring our desire, is not an event, but an ongoing process. In taking it on we strengthen our motivation. And for whatever our heart desires, that's always a good thing.
The practice is to imagine yourself as an instrument through which the one blows a single, continuous, beautiful note called life. The wisdom of Rumi rings so profoundly simple: Listen to and honor your emotional longings, including those waves of both pleasure and pain.