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Loss of a Child

Joshua Kaye Foundation Launches Random Acts of Kindness

Melissa Kaye | Posted 07.07.2015 | Impact
Melissa Kaye

Joshua Kaye died on July 7, 2014 after a 13-day battle with E. coli. He would have turned 10 on August 3, 2015. Joshua's family founded Joshua Kaye Foundation, which celebrates Josh's kindness, creativity and curiosity by funding thoughtful projects that include children, animals, the arts, and nature.

Why I'll Be Thinking About Joe Biden On Father's Day

Donna Mebane | Posted 06.19.2015 | Women
Donna Mebane

Joe Biden, who has now had the worst possible thing happen to him twice, must find a new well of strength.

What You Can't Tell From Looking At My Pregnant Belly

Ravishly | Posted 06.05.2015 | Parents
Ravishly

I don't feel the ultimate rush of happiness when someone wants to know all about this baby I hold my breath for. I often just feel like crying. I don't know how to tell them our story without having to face their fears, too. You are my worst nightmare, their eyes tell me. I know.

The Only Person Who Judges Me For My Abortion -- Who Matters  -- Is Me

Anna Spargo-Ryan | Posted 05.12.2015 | Women
Anna Spargo-Ryan

No one who loves me is critical of the decisions I made then. They don't say to me, "Anna, I still can't believe you did that to your unborn child." My experience was valid. The person who needs to forgive me is me.

My First Mother's Day Without My Son

Melissa Kaye | Posted 05.11.2015 | Parents
Melissa Kaye

Life after the death of your child is unbearable at times. I could end this post with a positive It Will Get Better message, but I'm not feeling that way right now and I know there are lots of other moms missing their babies today. I'm thinking of you.

On Mother's Day, Remembering Mothers Without Living Children

Tara Shafer | Posted 05.06.2015 | Parents
Tara Shafer

Memories of loss transposed onto a world awash in flowers and greeting cards leaves women reeling. Too often, their experience of motherhood is largely unacknowledged by society.

Remembering Ryan Cruz Saldana

Sue Shanahan | Posted 05.05.2015 | Parents
Sue Shanahan

On May 2, 2014 Jacqui and Dan Saldana lost their 3-year-old son, Ryan. Although I never met him, a piece of my heart broke off when he died. I learned about Ryan, while he still graced the planet, from my niece Molly.

The Struggle to Preserve Photos of Loved Ones

Sukey Forbes | Posted 06.02.2015 | Parents
Sukey Forbes

Charlotte's entire life is represented in the negatives that I sorted today. From the day she was born in 1997 until three days before she died in 2004.

Technology And Grief

Donna Mebane | Posted 05.20.2015 | Parents
Donna Mebane

ace to face, people didn't seem to know what to say. On Facebook, friends, family, friends of friends, even people we had never known shared their deepest feelings of loss and pain with Emma, on her page, in the same way they had shared their happiness - out loud, in writing, without a care who was reading over their shoulders.

Learning to Live Again After Losing a Child

Dr. Gail Gross | Posted 02.28.2015 | Parents
Dr. Gail Gross

No parent ever completely recovers from the loss of a child. After all, this child was part of you and when your child dies, it forever alters the way in which you define your past, your present and your future.

Trigger Warnings And Facebook's Year In Review

Melissa Kaye | Posted 02.28.2015 | Parents
Melissa Kaye

Sometimes it sucks and is unfair. Sometimes awful, unthinkable things happen. We can not expect the world to think of every terrible possibility and walk on eggshells to avoid triggering our nightmares.

My Wish Over the Holiday Season for Those Who Have Lost Loved Ones

Jonni Gray | Posted 02.14.2015 | Healthy Living
Jonni Gray

The opposite of death isn't life. The opposite of death is birth. Use this holiday season to give birth to a new form of relationship with your loved one who has passed on.

A Mother's Tears: Open Letter to Mothers of Color

Mardra Sikora | Posted 02.03.2015 | Parents
Mardra Sikora

When someone we love is robbed from us, it feels like the world should stop. Actually, it does. For a moment. And we look around us, jealous that others are still living, working and being alive.

6 Steps To Survive The Holiday Season After Loss

Donna Mebane | Posted 02.03.2015 | Women
Donna Mebane

The first year, I didn't cook Thanksgiving dinner or shop for Christmas presents. I had other children, sure. But I didn't have Emma, and that defined me

What Is Brave?

Melissa Kaye | Posted 01.24.2015 | Parents
Melissa Kaye

There are no eloquent words to describe the pain of losing a child. It is unending. It feels exactly as you would imagine it would, but worse

I'm Jealous Of Your Noisy, Messy Days

Melissa Kaye | Posted 01.10.2015 | Parents
Melissa Kaye

Enjoy the moments with your children. Try not to take things too seriously. Remember that things can change in an instant.

Loss is Loss and Comparison Only Leaves Us Alone In It

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 12.16.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

Does it hurt less that I have lost three, but she has lost five? Does it hurt less that you at least got a couple of years with him? Does it hurt less that she lived a longer life and mine never grew?

What Not To Say To A Parent Who Has Lost A Child

The Huffington Post | Kira Brekke | Posted 09.30.2014 | Parents

Losing a child is unspeakably painful, so finding the right words to say to those grieving can be difficult. Two parents who have both lost a chil...

The Daily Risks of Good Parenting

Sherri Kuhn | Posted 11.08.2014 | Parents
Sherri Kuhn

How do we do this every day, when there is no guarantee? No promise of a future, or of grandchildren on our laps, no cure for cancer, no special bubble wrap that can protect our children? We let them go each day, small pieces of our hearts with goals and a will all their own.

Rare Bird: Learning About Hope From a Grieving Mother

Kristin Shaw | Posted 11.04.2014 | Books
Kristin Shaw

I detest the news. In fact, the news has become so frightening to me, especially now that I have a son, that I often avoid it. I know it's not the responsible, civic thing to do, but sometimes, it's the only way I stay sane.

Addiction: Survivor's Guilt and Heroic Parents

Dean Dauphinais | Posted 10.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Dean Dauphinais

I cannot even imagine what losing a child to drugs would be like. Lord knows I've thought about it a lot. For a while, I was terrified that it might happen to me. And I'd be lying if I said it's not something I still think about from time to time when I allow my mind to wander out of the moment.

Letter To My Daughter On The 10th Anniversary Of Her Passing

Sukey Forbes | Posted 10.19.2014 | Parents
Sukey Forbes

Charlotte, two of the most profound life experiences for me were the day you came into the world as my daughter and the day you left the world as my daughter.

Grief Is Not Broken

Elea Acheson | Posted 10.18.2014 | Parents
Elea Acheson

Grief is not broken, and it doesn't need fixing. Maybe that's why people are so scared of grief, because the word "broken" is used so often. Broken is a horrible thing. Broken is something that may mend, but will never heal. Broken will always leave scars to remind us of the pain.

What NOT To Say After Miscarriage or Child Loss

Seleni Institute | Posted 09.30.2014 | Parents
Seleni Institute

When someone you love loses a baby, you may feel helpless and uncertain about how to respond. And you might not get it right. If you've never experienced such a loss yourself, how can you know what your friend or family member needs at this terrible time?

Don't Label My Late Child a Hero

Suzanne Leigh | Posted 09.27.2014 | Parents
Suzanne Leigh

But I remain guarded about the reckless use of the "h" word when it comes to cancer. Natasha was kind, compassionate and gracious, but over time she did not bear her disease with astonishing bravery.