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Loss of a Husband

The Chicken Recipe That's Inspiring Me To Eat Better

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 12.22.2016 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

Now that Peter has died, I have lost my appetite. I have lost the zest for soul food -- food that brings us emotional connections. Part of my grief is losing that connection that we had over our joy of eating. My new normal seems indigestible in so many ways.

The Courage Of My Convictions

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 12.08.2016 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

The sadness is profound, the hole in my heart is still cavernous, but the good news is that my heart keeps on beating.

How Grief Took Up Residence In My Heart

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 11.25.2016 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

After the recent election, many in our country are experiencing deep grief. They are discovering that they must learn to understand grief and accept its power, in order to move forward. The word grievous is derived from the word grief meaning sadness.

Why It's Finally Time To Bury The Stages Of Grief

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 11.01.2016 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

After Peter died, with the help of Amazon Prime, I immersed myself in reading book after book about grief. Books about grief can be valuable tools that provide validation for those experiencing a loss.

Why Comparing Grief Is Such A Useless Cause

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 09.28.2016 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

As I go through the process of grief, I know that I have to recalibrate my reality. I have to find a new attitude to get me through this demanding journey. I have to take charge of my grief and become a survivor, not a victim.

Where Are You Siri? 'Wherever You Are That's Where I Am'

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 03.31.2016 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

I find myself getting drawn in by Siri's inviting nature, almost viewing Siri as a humanized conversational partner. My Siri is a lovely British woman who talks in dulcet tones. I tried an Australian man but I really like to have a woman around to hear my questions.

The Joke's Over, You Can Come Out Now

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 03.22.2017 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

At least once a day I look for Peter. I look when I put my key in the lock and open the front door. I look when I have gotten into bed and wait for him to slip under the covers beside me. I look when I go downstairs to his office. His presence is in the house.

The Perfect Chicken Soup Recipe For When You Have A Cold

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 03.12.2017 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

I hate getting a cold. It only happens a few times a year but when I do, it goes right to my nose and I can't smell or taste. As a foodie, my sense of smell and taste are my greatest pleasures. When I can't taste, I don't eat, and that is not a good thing for me.

Finding A Modicum Of Normalcy 5 Months After Losing My Spouse

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 01.24.2017 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

It is over five months since my sweet husband Peter died and I am beginning to find a modicum of normalcy. My dinner dates have slowed down but my lunch plans are still going. Yes, I am 'demoted to lunch' a bit, although I don't blame my friends, it is more on my part.

It's Been 3 Months Since My Spouse's Death And I'm Still Not Doing Well

Laurie Burrows Grad | Posted 11.05.2016 | Fifty
Laurie Burrows Grad

After months people chirp at me that I am 'out and about and doing so well.' In their minds it seems to be a positive. In truth, I might smile, but inside, I am woefully unhappy. I am doing 'well' on the outside but on the inside, I feel the pain even more because the shock has worn off and the reality has hit.

It's OK: 36 Things Widowers Can Do Without Guilt

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 05.04.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Sometimes all we need is for just one person who has walked the same path to quietly and gently say, "It really is OK..."