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Loss of a Parent

Everything We Need

Jason Good | Posted 01.28.2016 | Fifty
Jason Good

The home hospice nurse, Maureen, told us not to blame ourselves if we missed Dad's death. She said that terminally ill patients often choose when to die and often do so when they are alone. But Mom and I were not concerned. Dad always wanted us to be together, regardless of circumstance.

Why I Haven't 'Been There, Done That'

Kara Post-Kennedy | Posted 01.13.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Kara Post-Kennedy

So our old dog is reaching her end-of-days. My husband and I picked her from a litter as a newborn pup (truthfully, she picked HIM -- I should have k...

Another Motherless Christmas

Tamika Felder | Posted 12.18.2015 | Women
Tamika Felder

We are all survivors, finding our way and making new Christmas traditions. The most important thing to remember is that we are doing them together.

20 Things I Wish More People Understood About Losing a Parent as a Kid

Toby Nwazor | Posted 12.17.2015 | Impact
Toby Nwazor

Time may heal all wounds, but it does nothing about the scars. So please try and understand if at certain times we say that we miss our dead parent(s).

A Legacy of Loss

Michelle Hanson | Posted 02.28.2015 | Women
Michelle Hanson

My father died when I was 16. I do not know what he would have thought of my prom gown, or if he would have handed me his handkerchief on my wedding day. I do not know if my mother would have approved of my college major or how I handled the stressors of my first job.

The Upside of Early Loss

Kristina Cowan | Posted 12.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Kristina Cowan

Jim's tragedy seemed insulting to my already-injured family. Jim died on Sept. 5; my mom died on Sept. 7. She was 46 and I was 15. Jim was 47 and his oldest child was 15. History, cruel beast, had repeated herself in a mocking chorus of eerie parallels.

Losing My Mother Inspired Me to Help Others -- Like You

Ellevate | Posted 11.17.2014 | Women
Ellevate

We plan for the birth of a child, for our children's weddings and for our retirements, don't we? Then why don't we plan for one of life's greatest transitions?

We Have Extraordinary Fathers in Our Family

Karen Sewell | Posted 08.13.2014 | Parents
Karen Sewell

Raising my daughters to know two fathers is challenging. It is special, and it's joyous at times, and it's also confusing and heartbreaking.

A Fatherless Father's Day

Michelle Hanson | Posted 08.11.2014 | Women
Michelle Hanson

I have passed the rows of Father's Day cards when shopping for weeks now. It's like a knife to my heart every time.

My Mother's Death: One of the Most Transcendent Moments of My Life

Arianna Huffington | Posted 07.10.2014 | Fifty
Arianna Huffington

Everyone felt her presence there, hosting, presiding, shining her light on us. In our garden, we planted a lemon tree in her honor that has been producing juicy lemons ever since.

11 Things to Do This Mothers Day to 'Mother Yourself'

Gloria Horsley | Posted 07.09.2014 | Women
Gloria Horsley

I know for some of you Mother's Day will be difficult not just due to a death, but to other types of losses as well such as illness or divorce. For those who are feeling sad and confused I would like to share with you a few things I did that helped me through those early unhopeful Mother's Days.

A Bittersweet Mother's Day

Carolyn Anderson | Posted 07.08.2014 | Women
Carolyn Anderson

This Mother's Day will be my third year without my beloved mom and my sixth as a mother myself. I miss my mom everyday, but there are certain days -- like her birthday, Christmas and Mother's Day -- when her absence is felt more strongly.

What I Want My Kids To Know About My Long-Gone Mom

Shelley Emling | Posted 07.06.2014 | Fifty
Shelley Emling

I lost my mother and very best friend in 1996, when I was 33 years old. In some ways I miss her more now than I did all those years ago.

I Didn't Know How To Live With My Father's Illness

Linda Varlese | Posted 05.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Varlese

Not a day goes by that I don't look for him in other people's faces. Not a day goes by that I don't grasp to hold the memories together. Not a day goes by that I don't try to hear his voice again so that I won't lose it. Not a day goes by that I don't try to question him for the answers to my doubts.

Jaime Franchi: When My Father Died, I Knew What I Had to Do

Jaime Franchi | Posted 05.03.2014 | Healthy Living
Jaime Franchi

Being on the front lines of my own life without the cushion of a parent between me and my own eventual death brought my goals into focus.

Kelly Haramis's "Double Happiness"

R. Clifton Spargo | Posted 04.16.2014 | Arts
R. Clifton Spargo

What happens when you gather the many parts of one woman's life, staging them for all to see in a single one-hour performance?

'I Feel Like A Frightened 10-Year-Old Boy Looked After By A Babysitter He Doesn't Know'

Edward M. Weinman | Posted 03.07.2014 | Fifty
Edward M. Weinman

'Shitwa!' The word was a polite way to curse so as not to teach her 12 children epithets that they might repeat in school or in a public place, like a grocery store. Yes, my mother had 12 kids.

It's That Time of Year

Kyle Koeppel | Posted 02.20.2014 | Healthy Living
Kyle Koeppel

For most people, the new year is associated with the holiday season. While I have the same 'tis-the-season' feelings this time of year as most, I als...

A New Military Widow's Words For Her Sons

Sarah Smiley | Posted 01.23.2014 | Parents
Sarah Smiley

Landon was supposed to be home a month ago, but his deployment was extended due to the situation in Syria. In other words, Theresa's husband should have been home on Monday with his new son. Instead, he is dead.

The Date On My Calendar I Couldn't Ignore

Katelyn Mullen | Posted 10.02.2013 | Women
Katelyn Mullen

It arrives every year, like clockwork. It's the type of day you know all of the people that care about you remember, but you also hope they will forget. There is the idea of going about your business like it's any old day of the year, but that is utterly impossible.

My Mom and My First Dog, Now Both Long Gone

Ken White | Posted 10.02.2013 | San Francisco
Ken White

My curly hair, not a grey one among the mass, mushrooms grandly around me in the style of the times, 1975. We are young, happy. Today, I am older than my mother was when that picture was taken.

The Note That Brought Me To My Knees

Jessica Pearce Rotondi | Posted 09.24.2013 | Women
Jessica Pearce Rotondi

It never occurred to me that my mother could be torn between the family she was raising and the family that raised her.

What I'm Doing to Limit the Risk of Your Child Growing Up Without You

Karri-Leigh P. Mastrangelo | Posted 09.23.2013 | Parents
Karri-Leigh P. Mastrangelo

I am a (relatively) safe person. I don't smoke (anymore), binge drink (anymore) or do lots of drugs (you get the point). I do all that I can to safeguard our future, except the one thing that would stop putting it at risk 365 days a year.

Three Years Later

Robyn Stoller | Posted 09.07.2013 | Healthy Living
Robyn Stoller

Whenever there is an issue with one of our children, I will always wonder if it has something to do with the fact that they lost their father. Although I will never truly know if this is the reason behind certain circumstances, I've learned to realize that the answer doesn't really matter.

My Father Died From West Nile Virus in NYC

David Mager | Posted 08.24.2013 | Healthy Living
David Mager

Last summer my father fell ill and fell down and hit his head, taking out much of one tiled wall in his bathroom. Although he was still conscious and ...