When I was a teenager I would look forward to the coming school year with new books, pencils, erasers, and the whole schmear. I would go to class, write in my new books, but when I had one mistake, it was over. I was the best little girl in the world and had to be perfect. I couldn't just toss it off. I had to start again.
You may feel that people around you would rather that you "get over it" quickly and "get on with your life" so they can get on with theirs too. Most of us aren't taught how to grieve, and so, we won't know how to be with others in a supportive way when they are grieving. Some myths about how one "should" grieve:
After months people chirp at me that I am 'out and about and doing so well.' In their minds it seems to be a positive. In truth, I might smile, but inside, I am woefully unhappy. I am doing 'well' on the outside but on the inside, I feel the pain even more because the shock has worn off and the reality has hit.