Having an optimistic approach to dating isn't necessarily a bad thing. It only becomes problematic when we can no longer see a situation for what it truly is and recognize when it's time to walk away.
After I was divorced and middle-aged and back in the dating pool, I unfortunately had to kiss a few more frogs. One I recall was a tongue-darter -- very disconcerting and unromantic. And another one was worse, he had bad breath and tasted like a dried-out steak every time I kissed him. Beef is okay to eat, but NEVER to kiss.
You'll notice I said thinking about sex, not physically having it. It's not that I don't want to, I simply can't muster the energy.
There are some relationships that don't really have a name. Like the third cousin who's actually more like a sister since your great grandmother raised her mother and you live next door to each other on the Upper West Side. Or the very nice couple whose equally nice daughter has been dating your son for two years. Ours was that kind of relationship.
You deserve to be treated with love, honor, and respect. Never settle for less and continue walking toward actions that lead you closer and closer to healthy love.
Should I wait until I am in a serious relationship and absolutely sure the guy is right for me and will be supportive of my son? If I do wait and find that I have developed feelings for this man only to discover that he won't be supportive of my son, then I must end the relationship. So since I won't know how supportive he'll be until I take off my mask and test the waters, that's what I do.
You don't have to be jacked. You don't have to be ripped. You can be yourself and people are still going to want to be your friend and date you.
I don't know if your love will produce children. I don't know if you'll even want children. But I do know that you should hold onto these youthful moments. Hold onto what you had in that waiting line. Hold onto the jokes, the laughs, the unapologetic PDA.
There are so many pet names we give our vagina (and its environs) that it's often hard to know if a woman is talking about her vulva or her miniature poodle. I'm not talking about the grown-up slang we like to throw out to make each other blush.
Dating has also gone through a radical transformation since we were teenagers. When we were young and hormonal the sexual nature of teenagers was primal. We dated with fervor reminiscent of prehistoric man who mated frenetically to ensure the survival of the species.
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Finding time for intimacy with kids around can be hard. By the time they go to bed at night, it's a miracle if you have enough energy to make it to the living room couch without collapsing.
Whatever spontaneous storm may come our way I plan on loving my wife. If you truly love someone (and they truly love you), commit to that love and plan on it being hard work.
A little while ago, I offered unsolicited advice for men over 50 about dating. This came mostly from what women had told me about their dates. Though many of them had positive observations, a lot of what they had to say dealt with their male companions being self-centered, boring, arrogant, duplicitous, needy and/or unwilling to commit (sometimes, impossible as it sounds, at the same time).
After pointing out how your husband or wife is very different now compared to how they acted when you first starting dating, I will now give you six little ways to help you start to like your spouse more. Don't doubt the Blogapist. You are about to get schooled.
I've made it a rule in my personal life to never apologize for loving people, even if that love is never returned. To be unloving is the other person's problem, not mine.