I knew the honeymoon had to end sometime. But I was still shocked the day I realized my wife had become a sort of business partner in the enterprise that was our family. Careers, kids and endless logistics had squeezed out our passion.
Abuse is sometimes extremely subtle. It is often insidious: You go from thinking you are falling in love to wondering why all of the "problems" in your new relationship seem to be your fault -- with no clear idea of how you got from point A to point B.
When I met my now ex-husband Mike, I had just turned 21. I was a virgin then and I was a virgin when we divorced.
The photo of me conveys a lot because a lot is not shown. Only the side of my face is visible. I'm nude but you don't see nipples or genitals. Because it's not totally clear what's going on, the viewer can project his or her own fantasy onto the shot.
According to the older men, one key to a long marriage can be summed up as "give your partner's interests a try." Among unhappy couples and divorced elders, resentment of a spouse's independent interests shone through. The partner's passion for an activity was seen as a threat to the relationship.
When you're operating at a hundred percent, you can usually tell good advice from bad advice. But when you're going through a divorce, you're not your normal, level-headed self. That means there's a high risk that you could take garbage advice seriously -- or even worse, follow it.
One half of all of your relationships will always consist of you, and you are the only person that you know for sure will be a part of your love life for ever. Making sure that you know and like yourself is the foundation of your love life, and will make everything else a lot easier.
In today's pop culture, sex appears to be everywhere, especially as the 50 Shades of Grey books and movie continue to spur conversation about sexual d...
For Anna and Jed, changing the downstairs study into their bedroom, so that their teenage kids can't hear them having sex, has boosted their love life and kept their marriage together.
When it came to celebrating my husband's professional accomplishments, I wasn't the first to congratulate him. I felt jealous of his time in the limelight for very public recognition of his accomplishments in a career I had given up to care for our family. And I also interpreted his success as taking away from mine.
Is sex the same nearing 70 as it was at 50? No, but that's not necessarily bad news. The lessons I've gleaned over the past few decades have actually made sex a better experience.
Online dating should not just be for those lacking validation, those not considered attractive by society -- it can and should be for everyone.
No marriage is perfect, it will not always be "rainbows and butterflies"; it takes work to keep a marriage going. It takes humility, sacrifice, and a lot of energy. But when there are so many people ready to swoop in and make themselves available to your spouse with the simple click of a button, it almost feels like it is an impossible undertaking.
I struggled that morning, and it took every ounce of strength within me not to go back to sleep and try to find you there in my dreams. I had forgotten exactly what it was like to be with you.
Why do we cling so desperately to a relationship that's died? Because we've been told it's the right choice to make.
If you're holding back, take the plunge. Take the risk -- and the growth you'll ultimately gain will be so much more than the pain you may have to endure to get it.