After five months of marriage, eight months of being engaged, and another year of whatever the hell we were doing before we got engaged, I realized I don't trust my wife. I trust her opinions about important things. I trusted that she'd make a great wife. But you know what I don't really trust? Her feelings.
Just a few short months ago, my parents celebrated their 30th wedding anniversary. Like most couples, they have also faced their fair share of challenges during the duration of their marriage, and they relied on each other to get through them. I feel fortunate to have such great role models for my own marriage.
I urge boomers to ignore any pressure to marry again quickly, whether from a partner, friends, or relatives. This is your life and it's entirely your decision. Neither my partner nor I choose to marry, but we both feel living together is a viable option.
A man who loves you will make you feel it in his own ways. When he really cares, you will know it -- if he doesn't, you will be wondering all the time if he does.
However, the reality is that when we use the fuel of this love that we've gained through out connection with another and use it to fuel our own inner desires, we then help ourselves, our relationship, and all those around us. We help all that is around us when we say yes to the calling that is within us.
Over the past three years, I have been on plenty of dates, probably too many to count. There have been some great dates. What qualifies as a great date, you ask. For me, I would say a great date has three key ingredients: lots of laughter, some meaningful conversation, and physical attraction. I am quick to qualify a date as a bad if I hear one or more of the following things.
Having sex with Sam has changed my life. It's not just the sex that's changed me. It's the experience of loving the man I'm having sex with that has completely, irrevocably rocked my world.
If you are separated, I hope you keep hope alive. If someone else has tempted you, I hope you decide to choose love over attraction. If you're just starting your life together, make the decision to love each other every single minute of the time you have on this earth together.
Slowly but surely, Mrs. Grover became a part of who I am. Thanks to her, I am the sort of person who talks to strangers. Who doesn't hold her tongue. And when I married M, I became Mrs. Grover.
The best way to keep your relationship going strong in midlife is to keep you and your partner healthy. Although many people think about a healthy lifestyle in terms of benefiting their own bodies and minds, they may not realize just how much they can do to benefit their partners, and vice versa.
If you're romantically interested in men, viewing other women as your competition not only feels really crappy, it will only hurt you in your relationships with men or in your journey to find love.
Here's a set of wedding vows with practical merit. They might sound unconventional and unromantic. They're certainly not poetic, but these promises, if kept, will go far in sealing a marriage for the ages.
Most women want a man in their life. After all, don't you? That's why you're reading this, isn't it And you've probably gone online or out into the real world to find him. But you haven't for many reasons.
Don't walk around thinking about love. Just be yourself. Allow people to see who you truly are. Let them see who you are in this moment. Let them see who you are as a woman. Let them see who you are as a mother. Let them see who you are as a businesswoman.
Once a week I would cry my eyes out and bare my soul to him. One week I begged him to help satisfy me. One week I told him I wasn't sure I could stay in a sexless marriage. One week I asked him to let me have a fuck buddy. He told me he'd think about it and changed the subject.
As a sex coach who works primarily with women, the lion's share of my work is helping women understand that they are not broken, and helping them find their own individual portal to their unique erotic expression.