Though this solo stint has taught me a ton about my values and desires, it's also has given me time to think about thethings I absolutely need in a partner.
As a male in the dating world, I would like to invite my other male counterparts to view what is expected from us by doing what I did and watching romantic comedies. Needless to say, we have a lot to live up to.
Being held in just the way you need to be by someone stronger than you are in that moment, being told what to do in the safe context of a mutually agreed upon power exchange, is pretty damn intoxicating. That is what Christian was trying to offer Ana.
Our kids have grown into full-sized Homo Sapiens fully capable of feeding themselves. The time has come to let them do their own hunting and gathering.
Your partner is feeling frisky, but you aren't. Or you really want to do it, but you're too tired or too stressed or too something else. Turn that downtown frown around with any of these MiddleSexy recommendations for getting yourself in the mood.
You could be the most amazing, sexiest, coolest, smartest, funniest woman alive, but you can't do anything to change another person's emotional, mental or physical availability.
We should have been in a good place. We weren't. I'd limited myself. I'd held back big parts of me in the six weeks we'd been dating -- an older couple who'd come together with surprise and a lot of 'like' going on.
In the gay world, many of us seem to be looking for the next best thing - all while neglecting the fact that all we ever wanted and all we ever needed was potentially right next to us.
On a recent evening, Hubs and I were sitting out on the deck, sharing a fabulous bottle of Cabernet and quietly enjoying the warm sunset together. Hubs looked over at me and said, "I'm so lucky to be married to you. But sometimes I think you're too classy for me."
There is a big difference between seeing sex on screen, reading about it and doing it. The three are worlds apart, and it is a difficult task for filmmakers to shock or titillate with kinky sex when it's become something almost pedestrian and readily available on your iPhone.
How can you know if your husband is really happily married?
I do not regret the divorce. But I do want to ensure I do not make the same mistakes again. I'll make other mistakes, but not these.
I have watched many decide to divorce. To admit they have failed in maintaining love for someone they vowed to love. Forever. It feels awful. I know. I have done it myself.
The day is all about sweetness, isn't it? Romantic dinners, champagne, balloons, flowers, candy, adorable Hallmark or emailed cards, teddy bears, mushy songs that make you grin.
Go enjoy Fifty Shades of Grey. Thank you for sparing me any of the details. And just remember, the love of your life will be nothing like Christian Grey. He'll be better.
What does it really means to form a partnership and marriage with someone? To meet someone and eventually make the decision to share a life together. To be brave enough to embark on a journey that is ridiculously fraught with imperfections. To give over a piece of your heart and in turn accept another person's heart -- by choice.