My definition of man is not measured in weight: the outrageous number you can lift in the gym, the heftiness of the diamond you slip on some materialistic finger. It is measured by your ability to stoically look down the barrel of vulnerability.
We are much more ready to have average men posing for underwear ads than we are to have average men figure skate, style our hair, or even do ballet. But I don't want the average man to pose for underwear the same way I would not want him to do ballet.
Considering the pressures gay men face in their own communities to attain and retain a stellar physique, it is no surprise that gay men are more likely to develop eating disorders. So, what can be done to change the gay communities' perspectives on body image?
Just as you wouldn't wear the wrong size shoe and just as you may fully understand the subtlety of a perfect fitting bra, a well fitting condom will take your (and your partner's) mind off of the condom and on to giving and receiving pleasure.
Our image of a brilliant woman is that of an incredibly competent one -- put-together and efficient-looking. The one-in-a-million abstract-thinking mind is not one it is popularly imagined a woman could possess.