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Managing Expectations

Your Kid Probably Isn't the Next Simone Biles. Here's Why You Should Keep Her in Gymnastics Anyway

Quora | Posted 09.27.2016 | Parents

My child is doing a sport she loves and I'm disappointed she's not better at it. Should I stop her to ease my disappointment? originally appeared on Q...

Don't Let Expectations Ruin Your Education

Alex Whitney | Posted 07.08.2016 | Education
Alex Whitney

To me, school is a place for learning, exploring, applying, and above all, growing. My advice to you is to never forget that. Education is a journey. Do not belittle it and add unnecessary stress by throwing yourself into books for a mere letter. It is worth a lot more.

6 Ways To Turn A Failure Into A Success

Janet M. Neal | Posted 07.06.2016 | Business
Janet M. Neal

A few years back, I had an idea, one I felt was absolutely divinely inspired. It was for a place for women to come together to learn, to connect and to relax. All was going beautifully, until I ran out of money to keep it afloat.

How I Bounced Back from My Career Disappointment

Priscilla Christopher | Posted 05.18.2016 | Business
Priscilla Christopher

You know the excitement surrounding a potential career choice, right? You attend college as part of your career preparation plan, after graduating from high school. You graduate from college ready to enter the workforce in this chosen profession.

What's Communication Got to Do With... Lasting Love?

Mark Baer | Posted 02.10.2017 | Healthy Living
Mark Baer

Try and assess the ratio of positive to negative comments you make to each other. Chances are, you may need to make some adjustments in that regard, if you value your significant other and hope to celebrate many more love and romance-filled Valentine's Days together.

Ya Just Have to Love Those Temperamental, Terrific 12-Year-Olds

Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. | Posted 08.28.2016 | Parents
Laurie Hollman, Ph.D.

After being the oldest in elementary school then adjusting to being the youngest in a brand new middle school, finding your way around a bigger place, having many teachers, meeting lots of new kids, finding your body changing, more expectations by parents and teachers -- phew -- who can blame your 12-year-old for feeling vulnerable?

Expectations -- Part 2: The Boogeyman in Relationships

Lulu Salavegsen | Posted 08.10.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Lulu Salavegsen

Continued from Expectations -- Part 1: Attachment to Outcomes Kills Magic." I used to have a boyfriend in my 20s who was 15 years my senior. He wou...

Expectations -- Part 1: Attachment to Outcomes Kills Magic

Lulu Salavegsen | Posted 08.03.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Lulu Salavegsen

Life is so bizarrely beautiful. These are the little nudges of the universe and the divine intelligence that helps us move along our way. I love it as...

5 Ways to Reduce In-Law Related Anxiety

Erris Langer Klapper | Posted 06.17.2016 | Women
Erris Langer Klapper

I've dipped my big toe into this risky topic pool once before, and am now ready to take the full plunge. Here are five coping mechanisms I've developed, which I'm still laboriously practicing and pledging in writing to continue to rehearse

It's Not The Oven's Fault (A Lesson in Patience)

Janet M. Neal | Posted 04.08.2015 | Women
Janet M. Neal

I have lost my ability to be patient. I KNEW that even though the turkey had "popped," it couldn't possibly be ready yet. So, instead of trusting my gut, I relied on a piece of plastic and rushed the rest of the meal.

When Not Making the Team Is A Victory

Sarah Trillin | Posted 01.24.2015 | Parents
Sarah Trillin

No one wants to watch helplessly while his or her child is in pain. But everything we know about how we can help our children become resilient adults points to the fact that this is something that we have to be willing to do as parents.

The Expectations of Whys

Susie (Newday) Mayerfeld | Posted 12.15.2014 | Parents
Susie (Newday) Mayerfeld

Why is an accusing word. A word that is inherent criticism.After all, if everything was perfect, you wouldn't need to ask why. Have you ever heard anyone ask, "Why is the house so clean?" or "Why were the errands all run?" No. You haven't.

Recovering From Your Expectation Hangover

MeiMei Fox | Posted 12.07.2014 | Home
MeiMei Fox

Labeled yourself an over-achiever? Defined yourself according to your accomplishments? And then been disappointed when life didn't go exactly according to plan?

Just Say No... To Your Kids

Dana Westreich Hirt | Posted 11.08.2014 | Parents
Dana Westreich Hirt

Why do we struggle so to say NO? We don't want our kids to be mad at us. We don't want to disappoint them. We don't want to sit in the blistering storm of their rage.

5 Reasons I (Still) Believe In Marriage

Rachel Weinstein | Posted 11.03.2014 | Weddings
Rachel Weinstein

Whether you marry someone of the same sex, of the other sex, or somewhere in between. Whether you wear a white dress or a blue feather boa. Whether you are married in a church by a priest or by yourselves under the moon with only the waves as the officiant. I believe in the commitment of marriage.

When What You Expect Is Not What Is

Tausha Cowan | Posted 10.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Tausha Cowan

Change outside our control doesn't always equate to bad change. I learn that every day, whether it's a rescheduled boat trip or something much more important to my livelihood.

Doing Your Best Isn't Good Enough

Lewis Michael Senior | Posted 09.26.2014 | Business
Lewis Michael Senior

I thought I would share some perspectives on expectations that we believe is appropriate at home, work or play in any walk of life.

Great Expectations: What Would Life Be Without Them?

Janet M. Neal | Posted 09.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Janet M. Neal

When you can let go of expectations, let go of the need for controlled outcomes, life really does flow perfectly. And there's nothing wrong with that!

Why You're Approaching Stress All Wrong (And How To Change That)

meQuilibrium | Posted 08.26.2014 | Healthy Living

This distance between your ideal response to stress and your actual response can be discouraging. But the situation isn't hopeless, even if you're short on money or time. The trick is twofold: start small and become aware of your thoughts.

Since I Never Heard Back From You

Erin Donley | Posted 08.23.2014 | Business
Erin Donley

Anger is one of the easiest emotions to access. Some of us even look for an excuse to go there. "Since I never heard back" gives people permission to beat themselves up and unleash their silent rage.

The One Piece Of Advice All Stepmoms Need To Hear

Peggy Nolan | Posted 01.23.2014 | Divorce
Peggy Nolan

Be yourself. Sounds pretty simple, right? This isn't just the best advice for stepmoms but for almost every woman who's trying to morph herself into the expectations she thinks other people have of her.

3 Ways Shifting Your Expectations Can Lower Stress

meQuilibrium | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living

Your outlook is a product of your own relationship with expectation. What will or won't happen, no one knows. And how we deal with the stress of not knowing, whether to hope for the best or expect the worst, the idea that our expectations always directly affect an outcome is little more than magical thinking.

Throwing Your 'Hopeless Chest' Overboard: How to Get Rid of Expectations That Diminish Your Quality of Life

Christina Pesoli | Posted 10.19.2013 | Women
Christina Pesoli

Figure out what tasks have always caused you to feel inadequate as a woman, and stop letting these outdated notions and unrealistic expectations diminish the satisfaction you get out of all the things you do well.

Great Expectations = Great Disappointments

Bradley Foster | Posted 08.11.2013 | Healthy Living
Bradley Foster

There are two sides to expectations. We have to manage our own expectations and we have to be aware of others' expectations of us. Disappointment is a two-way street.

Living in the 'Should's

Dr. Debbie Magids | Posted 07.23.2013 | Healthy Living
Dr. Debbie Magids

Is the "should" you're doing getting in the way of you having the life you want? Is it contributing to you being unhappy? If the answer is yes, then you owe it to yourself to start making some new choices and releasing yourself.