The andropausal man and the post-menopausal woman are more alike than any other time in their adult lives. This is when, with a bit of work, they can make peace with their partners, recall shared history, experience love in a new way and make relevant how it relates to the parts of their lives that they actively care about.
You need to realize that being a father is an important aspect of manhood. It's essential to a man's self-esteem and sense of worth. That respect makes him feel strong, powerful and invulnerable. But respect isn't a given; it has to be earned every day. And that's hard, since there is so much men can't control, especially at midlife.
Men should use this time to uncover their authentic selves, to discover their passions and hidden talents, to enjoy greater honesty and depth in their relationships, to become more emotionally aware, to revel in hedonistic and sensual lovemaking, and to confidently share the wisdom they have accrued over the years.