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Margaret Paul

Are You Causing Your Own Suffering?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.19.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Many people, even those who are not alone and have plenty of money, spend much time suffering. It is obvious what the cause of suffering is when someo...

Is Your Focus Within or On Others?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.14.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

The joy of taking loving action in your own behalf, of feeling filled with love from Spirit and sharing that love with others is indescribable. Once you discover it, you will no longer attach your happiness and safety to others or to events. Happiness and a deep sense of inner safety can become your way of being, whether you are alone or with others.

Discerning Love From Manipulation

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.04.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

"Everyone loved my mother and thought she was a saint, but I never felt good around her and I never felt loved by her. There must have been something ...

The Difference Between Happiness and Pleasure

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.15.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

As we learn to shift our intent from controlling and not being controlled, to becoming loving to ourselves and others, the heart opens and joy is the result. Deep and abiding happiness and joy are the natural result of operating from the spiritual values of caring, compassion and kindness.

Problems With Trust? Trusting Others Starts With Trusting Yourself

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.07.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

How often have you ignored yourself when something didn't feel right, only to later discover that you really did know that something wasn't right? How often have you heard the voice of your inner or Higher Self and discounted it, only to regret it later?

Relationships: You Can Rediscover Love and Intimacy!

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 03.31.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Rather than take emotional responsibility for her own well being, Wendy was making Terence and her children emotionally responsible for her. She was abandoning herself, just as her parents had abandoned her, and was expecting Terence to give her what she never received from her parents.

Are You Present and Mindful -- Is Your 'Inner Baby Monitor' On?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 03.24.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Your inner baby monitor will stay turned on when your deepest intent is to be a loving mother and father with yourself. Retraining yourself to remember to be mindful and in the intent to learn is the challenge.

Are You Selfish or Self-Responsible?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.17.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Giving yourself up to avoid being called selfish is not self-responsible - it is manipulative and dishonest. When you give yourself up to avoid criticism, you are trying to control how another feels about you.

The Power of Self-Compassion

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.09.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

What if there was one choice you could make that would change everything in your life for the better? Actually, there is. It's the choice to move out ...

Are You Disorganized?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.02.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Are stuck in not being able to organize your time and space? Do you often feel overwhelmed regarding time and clutter? Are often rushing to get thing...

Happiness Is an Inside Job

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.26.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

We have all been brought up to believe that different external things are responsible for our happiness. I was raised to believe that happiness was re...

Do You and Your Partner Fight Over Money?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.19.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Relationship conflicts over money get resolved when both people move out of control or resistance and into caring about themselves and each other. Partnerships based on caring and compassion support intimacy and joy, even when money is limited.

Do You Operate as a Child or Adolescent -- Or as an Adult?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.12.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Aaron works hard and earns a very good living for his family. He loves his work and feels a deep satisfaction in designing beautiful buildings for peo...

What Are the Lies You Tell Yourself?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.06.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

The path to enlightenment is shifting out of the lies and into truth. Practicing these steps whenever you feel anything other than inner peace is a powerful way of getting there!

Are You Addicted to Blaming Others?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 03.29.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Charles consulted with me because his wife of 18 years had threatened to leave him if he didn't stop blaming her all the time. He admitted to frequent...

'We Rarely Make Love'

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 03.13.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

I cannot tell you how often couples complain to me that they rarely make love. These are generally people who love each other, who enjoy being togethe...

Free Will, God and Enlightenment

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 02.21.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

The spiritual path is the path of healing the ego, the mind, the wounded self, so that rather than our wounded self being in charge, we are able to re...

Do You Make Others Your Higher Power?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 02.14.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

One of the things I always tell my clients is, "Don't give your authority away to me. Don't assume that I know more about you than you do, or more abo...

You Can Heal a Worry Addiction!

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.31.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

It is not easy to stop worrying when you have been practicing worrying for most of your life. In order for me to stop worrying, I needed to recognize that the belief that worry has control over outcomes is a complete illusion.

Do Sacrifice Your Integrity to Avoid Conflict

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.18.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

People may choose a lack of integrity when they think that the outcome will be worth it. But is it worth any outcome -- emotional or financial -- to do harm to your own soul? We can get away with it only when we are not aware of the harm we are doing to ourselves.

Are You Being 'Good' or Are You Being 'Loving'?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.11.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

The problem is that, while we may have had some success with this strategy in our childhood homes, this same strategy is now causing our problems in our relationships at work and at home. When we disconnect from our own feelings, we become invisible to ourselves.

Keeping Love Alive

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.04.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

The concept of what it takes to keep love alive is really quite simple, but not so easy to do. The simple answer is this: Love flows between two people whose hearts are open to learning and to sharing love. The hard part is keeping the heart open.

Can We Make People Want to Change?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 12.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

We can certainly influence others with our love, peace and joy, but even that does not give us control. A major part of inner healing is learning to accept our lack of control over others' intent to learn or protect.

The Challange of Invasiveness

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 12.21.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Both of these types need work regarding invasiveness: the caretaker needs stronger personal boundaries, while the taker needs to be more conscious of not being invasive with others.

Controlling: Harmful or Beneficial?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 12.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Beneficial control is the control we have over choosing the intent to learn about love. Harmful control is when we attempt to control our feelings rather than learn from them, and attempt to control others and outcomes.