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Margaret Paul

Does Your Compassion Disappear When Someone's Angry?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.29.2016 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Renee saw herself as a very compassionate person. She could easily feel into her husband Jeff's feelings when he was sad or scared.

Power Struggles: Being Right or Being Loving

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.11.2016 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Mandy and Evan consulted with me for couple's counseling because they were always bickering. Every little thing seemed to become an issue between them...

Setting Yourself Free

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.05.2016 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

I often hear my clients say to me, "I can't do what I want to do because he or she wouldn't like it." How often do you find yourself limiting your own...

Setting Yourself Free

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 01.04.2016 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

If you are limiting your freedom due to fear of someone else's violent behavior, then you need to find a way to leave the situation. Again, it is you who are trapping yourself by being in a relationship with someone who verbally or physically violates you for your choices.

How to Connect With Your Spiritual Guidance

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 12.28.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Problems connecting with your spiritual guidance? Here's how! Did you know that connecting with Spirit -- with your personal spiritual Guidance -- i...

What Does It Mean to Be a Spiritual Person?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 12.21.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

People often confuse spirituality with religion. People can be both religious and spiritual, but it is also possible to be religious without being spi...

To End or Not to End Your Relationship

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 12.14.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Vanessa, 30 years old, is struggling with whether or not to end her six-year marriage. The answer is not at all clear to her. Vanessa and Jon have a ...

The Loneliness of Crazy Making

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 11.30.2016 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

In order to manage another's crazy making behavior, you need to name and manage the painful feeling of loneliness that occurs when you are at the othe...

Speaking Your Truth to Your Partner

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 11.23.2016 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

People often believe that they are withholding their truth to spare their partner pain, but their real intent is to protect themselves from the respon...

Overcoming Fears of Intimacy

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 11.16.2016 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

The fear of intimacy is based on the false belief of not being good enough. Believing this leads to fears of rejection and engulfment, which then caus...

How Do You Attempt to Control?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 10.26.2016 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

All of us have learned many different ways to attempt to control our feelings, others' feelings and behavior, and the outcome of things. Discover the ...

The Cause of Inner Emptiness

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 10.19.2016 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Inner Emptiness is never going to be filled by people, things, or activities. Discover the cause of inner emptiness and learn how to fill yourself fro...

When Your Love Is Not Enough

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 10.12.2016 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

We can never love someone enough for them to feel loved within if they are not loving themselves.

Are You Often Trying to Prove Your Love?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 10.05.2016 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Melanie was no longer exhausted and depleted, nor was she getting sick so often. By defining her own goodness, she no longer felt that she had to prove her love to anyone. She knew she was a loving person and she knew that she deserved to be treated with caring and respect.

Does Your Life Lack Meaning?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 09.28.2016 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Do you find that nothing really excites you or holds much meaning for you? Does your life lack passion and purpose? Discover the source of this emptin...

Are You a Trash Can for Others' Negativity?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 09.21.2016 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

If you are really honest with yourself, you will find that it's not worth it -- that you deserve better than to be a trash can for others' negativity.

Do You Give to Others for the Joy of It or to Get Love?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 09.13.2016 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

I received the following email from Adam, asking for my help: "Hi, my name is Adam (not his real name). I am living with my parents and I'm thinking ...

Do You 'Pull' on Others for Love, Attention or Approval?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 09.09.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

A friend of mine asked me the following question: "How would you describe 'pulling' to someone? I know when I feel pulled at, and I know when I'm pull...

Are You a Taker or a Caretaker in Your Relationships?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 08.31.2016 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

As most of us know, relationships can be challenging! We tend to bring all our baggage from our childhood into our primary relationships and create a ...

Sharing Your Feelings: Helpful or Hurtful?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 08.24.2016 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

"I just have to tell you how I feel. I'm very upset about what you did." "I'm really angry with you." "I just want to be honest with you. I'm so h...

Do You Squash Yourself to Avoid Rejection?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 08.17.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Does the thought of rejection terrify you? What do you avoid to evade rejection? Len sought my help because he wanted to get married and have childre...

Freaking Out From Scaring Yourself

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 08.10.2016 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

The plane was bouncing hard as we were starting our decent into Albuquerque. Living in Santa Fe at that time, I'd flown in and out of Albuquerque airp...

Perfectionism: A Common Addiction

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 08.03.2016 | GPS for the Soul
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Do you believe that if you are perfect you can control how others feel about you? Karen asked me the following question. For no obvious reason this...

Doing Service: It Opens the Heart and Fills the Soul

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 07.28.2016 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

A client of mine told me that she had been making food for a friend of hers who was very ill. "I find that my heart opens and I feel so happy when I a...

Are You Healing Your Grief, or Perpetuating It?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 07.20.2016 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

We all know that it is in one's highest good to grieve the loss of a relationship. Healthy grief releases feelings rather than allowing them to get st...