Alexandru was a close relative of Ed -- my beloved Romanian soulmate of 30 years. Alexandru was visiting Ed from out of town. One evening they had a long talk about a wide range of topics -- most of which concerned Alexandru's professional issues. The next day Ed had no memory of the visit, let alone what they had discussed.
Sometimes it takes so little to bring joy to a person with Alzheimer's. The following story is a case in point. One day I arrived at the Alois Alzheimer Center to visit Ed, my beloved Romanian soul mate. As soon as I got out of the car, I realized I'd forgotten to bring any "props" for the visit. I was going to have to be creative.
Facing the Herculean challenges of caregiving requires all the strength you can muster, including spiritual strength. It has been our experience that caregivers who develop what we would call "spiritual intentionality" are better able to face these challenges and retain their joy and hope than those who seek to go it alone, fueled by denial, anger and resentment.