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Marie Marley

A Nursing Home Aide's Shocking Behavior

Marie Marley | Posted 12.11.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Seeing that depth of affection - you can't fake bursting into tears - from an aide who'd cared for Ed for only one month, I was sure I'd selected the best Alzheimer's facility in town.

A Man With Alzheimer's and the Dog Who Forecasted His Death

Marie Marley | Posted 12.03.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Peter, my precious little Shih Tzu puppy, was brown and white with enormous brown eyes; his tail never stopped wagging. I was so happy I'd chosen him. Actually, I didn't choose Peter. He chose me. Like the Mona Lisa, his eyes followed me everywhere I went in the pet store.

How I Got My Beloved Romanian Soul Mate With Alzheimer's to Stop Driving

Marie Marley | Posted 11.14.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Without even realizing it - in my denial, I still didn't acknowledge that Ed has Alzheimer's - I'd solved this first serious dementia-related problem.

Why I Love Being Bipolar

Marie Marley | Posted 09.15.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

I thought long and hard before deciding to publish this article. There is still a strong stigma attached to mental illness. I had to think seriously about whether I wanted to reveal this very personal information.

Compose Yourself!

Marie Marley | Posted 09.07.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Incidentally, our plates had been delivered by the concert master chef himself and his wife, Viola. The chef was somewhat arrogant, bowed, introduced himself as Rigoletto and urged us to enjoy our meal. Clef said Rigoletto was a big bassoon. Clef even Wagnered his finger at him.

7 Tips for Downsizing Without the Heartache

Marie Marley | Posted 09.03.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

It isn't uncommon for people to want to downsize to a smaller home either when they retire or just before retirement. Let's look at reasons they do that, some of the heartaches that can be associated with it and 7 tips for avoiding that heartache.

People Living With Alzheimer's Can Still Enjoy Life

Marie Marley | Posted 08.22.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

It seems that Alzheimer's is a devastating illness and that those who have it can never again enjoy life. But in the books of several experts on the disease, however, a somewhat different picture emerges.

Denial May Deprive Alzheimer's Caregivers of Joy

Marie Marley | Posted 08.14.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Alexandru was a close relative of Ed -- my beloved Romanian soulmate of 30 years. Alexandru was visiting Ed from out of town. One evening they had a long talk about a wide range of topics -- most of which concerned Alexandru's professional issues. The next day Ed had no memory of the visit, let alone what they had discussed.

Simple Pleasures Can Bring Joy to a Person With Alzheimer's

Marie Marley | Posted 08.05.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Sometimes it takes so little to bring joy to a person with Alzheimer's. The following story is a case in point. One day I arrived at the Alois Alzheimer Center to visit Ed, my beloved Romanian soul mate. As soon as I got out of the car, I realized I'd forgotten to bring any "props" for the visit. I was going to have to be creative.

Alzheimer's and Making Peace With God

Marie Marley | Posted 06.07.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Facing the Herculean challenges of caregiving requires all the strength you can muster, including spiritual strength. It has been our experience that caregivers who develop what we would call "spiritual intentionality" are better able to face these challenges and retain their joy and hope than those who seek to go it alone, fueled by denial, anger and resentment.

Confessions of a Worn-Out Caregiver

Marie Marley | Posted 06.28.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Although it was difficult for me to master the new approaches, when I finally did our relationship blossomed again and life with him was much more peaceful and emotionally rewarding.

When Forgetting Is a Blessing

Marie Marley | Posted 06.21.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

People with Alzheimer's disease can become upset and agitated about things that happen to them. And when you, as the caregiver, witness your loved one's anguish, you may become distressed, too -- sometimes more so than your loved one.

When Alzheimer's Patients Make Perfect Sense

Marie Marley | Posted 06.13.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Many people who have cared for a person with Alzheimer's can tell you shocking stories about their loved ones having moments of total lucidity.

Convincing a Loved One With Alzheimer's to Move to a Nursing Home

Marie Marley | Posted 06.06.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

No one wants to place their loved one with Alzheimer's in a nursing facility. But sometimes, that's the best (or only) alternative, especially for those in the mid to late stages of the disease.

Try Giving Your Loved One With Alzheimer's a Stuffed Animal

Marie Marley | Posted 05.12.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

I had finally found a way to relate to him -- one that was truly satisfying for both of us. I was delighted to see his happiness. When I realized I could bring pleasure to my "new Ed" it was more than enough to make up for the loss of my "old Ed" and our previous relationship.

3 of the Most Difficult Situations Alzheimer's Caregivers May Ever Face

Marie Marley | Posted 05.02.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

When a loved one doesn't recognize you, it's as though you no longer exist in their world. It can cause searing pain. But ultimately, this is a situation that only hurts you. It typically doesn't bother them. And that's what matters.

Leeza Gibbons' Resources for Alzheimer's Caregivers

Marie Marley | Posted 03.02.2015 | Fifty
Marie Marley

While she does have a star on Hollywood's Walk of Fame, Leeza is also a powerful star in the world of Alzheimer's caregiving. Both her mother and grandmother had the disorder, and that's when she learned first-hand how devastating the disease can be for caregivers.

5 Tips for Surviving Alzheimer's

Marie Marley | Posted 10.25.2014 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Late one evening I was deeply immersed in writing a short story when I was startled by the phone ringing. Must be Ed I thought. But it wasn't. It wa...

Alzheimer's Caregivers - This One Activity Could Improve Your Quality of Life

Marie Marley | Posted 10.15.2014 | Fifty
Marie Marley

I once made a presentation at an Alzheimer's caregiver support group. One gentleman - let's call him John - had long insisted to his son and daughter-...

Alzheimer's Caregivers: 5 Tips for Dealing With Family Conflict

Marie Marley | Posted 08.02.2014 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Having a family member with Alzheimer's disease is a stressful situation for everyone involved. The conflict typically affects the primary caregiver more than other family members.

Anna Almendrala

How Stress Can Make Junk Food Even More Harmful

HuffingtonPost.com | Anna Almendrala | Posted 05.01.2014 | Healthy Living

When Marie Marley was caring for Edward Theodoru, her partner with Alzheimer's, he was the first thing she thought about when she woke up, and the las...

10 Tips for Visiting a Friend With Alzheimer's

Marie Marley | Posted 12.07.2013 | Fifty
Marie Marley

An entire book could be written about this topic. I'm going to list some of the most important things to do (and not to do) when you visit a friend with dementia either in their home or in a facility of some sort.

Laura Rowley

The 20 Best Post 50 Blogs Of 2012

HuffingtonPost.com | Laura Rowley | Posted 12.17.2012 | Fifty

After a year as senior editor on Huff/Post50, I'm leaving my post to take a new position in the company. I enjoyed many things about the role, but the...

Alzheimer's Journal: My Love's Stunning Reaction To Old Photo

Marie Marley | Posted 10.18.2012 | Fifty
Marie Marley

"Ah . . . She loved me," he murmured, an affectionate expression on his face. He kept looking at the photo in silence. He didn't realize that I was the woman in the photo.

Who Suffers More: Alzheimer's Patients or Their Caregivers?

Marie Marley | Posted 04.28.2012 | Healthy Living
Marie Marley

To help reduce your distress the next time your loved one is distressed, try to remain aware that people with dementia live only in the present. That way you can end your suffering as quickly as your loved one does, and then you can both move on to something more pleasant.