There is no time. Or, when there is time, your back is killing you from being a Baby Sherpa or child wrangler. Sex? Let's fill the tub with hot water for a good soak and then we can talk about it. Except, oops, no, you're asleep.
High in the skies of euphoric love, if any red flags pop up, you manage not to see them. Once you fall in love, parts of the brain go dormant -- the parts responsible for wariness, suspicion, discrimination.