I don't know about you, but when my marriage was ending the word forgiveness sounded like a dirty word. The very suggestion of forgiveness made me bristle with anger and I equated forgiveness with absolution.
The billion dollar wedding industry sells engagement as a time of sweep trains, fondants, and last hurrahs in Vegas. But engagement is just as likely to be remembered for stress-induced meltdowns, battles over money and control, and family dynamics gone horribly wrong.
The threshold between love and marriage, The Ten Days between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, creates a rich and relevant context to re-look into our lives.
You only get this one chance in your whole life, so use it wisely and make everyone believe that the two of you are the best couple in the history of coupling.
Journalist and talk show host Katie Couric has happily confirmed her engagement to John Molner over the Labor Day weekend.
Few people are aware of how dangerous it is to "inhale" two packs a day of emotional isolation. Because loneliness is viewed merely as an unfortunate circumstance and not as the silent killer it is, it rarely triggers a sense of urgency in the person who suffers from it.
Now that I've tried to change the way I look at love, the more I become shocked at the messages of love I had gotten when I was younger.
If you're like the countless Americans who are in the process of divorce, welcome to the club. The worst part? Divorce hurts. It isn't fun. It isn't pretty. But eventually, there is a light at the end of the tunnel -- if you just know where to look.
In many cases the wish to divorce doesn't come as a big surprise. Couples know that their relationship isn't really working anymore, but sometimes they see their holiday as a final test to be certain of their decision to split up or can we still make it work.
There was blame. There were power struggles. It felt like we were trying to one-up each other, even in terms of who was suffering more in the relationship. The dramatic difference two years later is that we think and behave more like a team.
Women and sex. More complex than higher math. Full of mystery, beautiful mystery. Like a universe with all kinds of galaxies, known and unknown, inhabited by bright stars that twinkle and light up the sky and sometimes shoot like comets piercing the ambient dark.
You know all those badass ladies out there that are inexplicably single? Well, maybe it's not so inexplicable.
Everyone wants to be a part of joyous celebration. To avoid hurt feelings, try to involve your family as much as possible. Allow them to give their input without overpowering your own decisions.
The less frustrated and disappointed we feel, the less likely it is that our attempts to create shared emotional closeness will be experienced as criticism by our partner, and consequently, the less likely it will be that they will respond defensively to us.
The story will especially resonate with many Jewish women who continue to suffer the shame and guilt of being agunot, and who, like Juliet, are left afloat in their quest to grapple with their identity.
I must admit that when Paul and I returned to North Carolina for a high school reunion, I was worried about what I would call him. "Spouse" seemed too clinical. "Hubby" was too cutesy. And while he is my "life partner," why should I change what I call him for others?