When the annual reckoning with the IRS rolls around, their willingness to help out entitles them to write-offs for unreimbursed expenses incurred while they do volunteer work for rescue groups like the Humane Society of the U.S and the ASPCA.
Resiliency isn't about avoiding conflict. Conflict is inevitable and is something that we can learn to manage better with practice. Resiliency is about bouncing back to connection after conflict.
And as a woman who has been in the marriage trenches for 15 years, while I don't have a degree in counseling, my degree in the hard knock world of marriage has taught me some lessons about what it takes to STAY MARRIED.
On June 29, Donna and I marked 59 years together. You can't be married as long as we have without developing some sure-fire ways to the keep the love alive. I thought I'd share a few ways that work for us.
The courts often have to resolve the troublesome question of whether a tax-free "gift" was actually a payment for services rendered. Not surprisingly, the question has come up when the IRS insisted on its share of sizable amounts received by women from men who weren't their husbands.
When your partner consistently avoids sex and intimacy, or on the rare occasion when they are willing, are obviously doing so reluctantly -- the accumulations of repeated rejections are likely to have a big impact on your self-esteem.
Soccer -- or football -- can teach us not just about sports or sportsmanship, but about our relationships at home and even about our marriages.
My husband sent me this email..."The maintenance light in the minivan has been on for weeks. Do you think you can take the car in soon?"
Finding a life-long partner is like buying a new car; before you go to the showroom, you should know what you want and what you're willing to pay. Here's a love-finding strategy based on research about happy marriages.
Although happiness is often a very real byproduct of a healthy relationship, marriage is designed to pull dysfunction to the surface of our lives, set it on fire and help us grow. The job of marriage is to refine our dysfunction and spur us into progressive wholeness.
It is hard but it is not an impossible task. There is somewhat of a formula here. It is not validated empirically but it is the formula that I have put together as I have observed many women on their relationship journey.
There are no "how-to steps" to a blissful marriage. Nature doesn't work that way and neither do we. There are, however, essential elements in Nature that have everything work in harmony and beauty.
Once you say "I do," the key is to keep dating your spouse. Remember all of the things that you did to make each other feel special day by day and keep on doing this year by year, decade by decade.
These days, I'm still using drawings to process emotions and counsel myself. Recently, when I sat down with pen in hand, I found that I was writing notes to myself about beauty. My stick figures were giving me messages about the importance of seeing and cherishing beauty in the world.
The strongest love story in classical literature is in the novel Wuthering Heights written by Emily Bronte where she develops the love story between Heathcliff and Catherine, proving the power of the emotion can carry on over a lifetime.
It amazes me how many people (men) know and understand the rules of sports -- enough to jump off their ass-imprinted couches to scream obscenities at the referee for a bad call -- but struggle with the basic rules of marriage.