When you become a father, if you really fall head over heels with the baby, you begin to appreciate the woman with whom you share the awesome responsibility of parenting in an entirely new light.
Emily and I have now been married for five months, and there is a difference. It's subtle, but I can feel it. I can feel it in how I view her, and I can feel it in how I view myself. Daily life still plays out as it did before, but it's now grounded in a singular, permanent foundation.
Social psychology researcher Arthur Aron of the Interpersonal Relationships Lab at Stony Brook University in New York developed 36 questions to help people break through each of the intimacy levels. You can do these with your partner or with friends. I highly recommend them to parents and teens.
Appreciate your partner's strengths and work around the limitations, and your partner will be more likely to do the same for you. If your relationship is basically healthy, you are not settling in the sense of accepting less than you deserve.
When I found myself divorced at the tender young age of 28, I realized that I had no idea who I was, no idea what made me happy and no idea what I really wanted to do with my life.
Keeping a positive outlook and concentrating on your daily happiness will only serve you well.
All of those things I worked so hard for in my twenties and achieved? I watched them get ripped away from me almost immediately.
When my husband goes back to the hospital for another ten hour back surgery, as my son Sam wryly notes, "It's not our first rodeo." We know what to ...
In other words, jealousy exists on a spectrum, and it's not something that you need to eradicate from your life -- it's merely a matter of finding the appropriate amount of jealousy for the situation.
I met him at 21 years of age, got engaged at 22, married at 23, left him at 24 and was legally divorced at 25 while living out of state.
Marriage is just one possibility, one option for how to live life.
I've realized that I don't need another person to define me because I am perfectly capable of defining myself.
Melanie was no longer exhausted and depleted, nor was she getting sick so often. By defining her own goodness, she no longer felt that she had to prove her love to anyone. She knew she was a loving person and she knew that she deserved to be treated with caring and respect.
My husband, Jim, and I load up his Jeep Wrangler on Brookline Street in Cambridge for our anniversary trip. The summer light, oozy. The briny smell of the ocean, fresh off the Charles. Excited, like the kids we were in 1981 when we met by accident in Harvard Square. His college gang. My college gang. Bang.
In the end, no matter what your experience is, divorce is still going to be tough. What matters most is that you never lose sight of who you are and how far you've come.
On this day, 1/4 of a century ago, I was a little pregnant and a whole lot overwhelmed, for I was marrying a man that I did not love, wearing a dress not of my choosing, in a synagogue that I had no real relationship with.