No marriage is perfect, it will not always be "rainbows and butterflies"; it takes work to keep a marriage going. It takes humility, sacrifice, and a lot of energy. But when there are so many people ready to swoop in and make themselves available to your spouse with the simple click of a button, it almost feels like it is an impossible undertaking.
If you're in this union for the long haul, pick a tip or two for divorce-proofing your marriage.
It is becoming more evident that those of us who disagree with traditional conservative orthodoxy are vilified as illegitimate Republicans, whatever that means.
At some point in every marriage, you will find yourself sobbing into your pillow over toothpaste caps and if you don't, you're a Stepford Wife.
This is harder because I don't know what my husband has chosen over me. Over Alice. Over our family.
You can shake your head or laugh or call it hippy dippy or whatever you like. But a woman's pussy is a wondrous thing with the most amazing parts and abilities, and it is simply not given its due in our culture. We are over-sexualized in theory, and under-experienced in practice.
If we are mindful and reflective as we plan weddings and other milestone celebrations, we can develop skills for forging and maintaining relationships that will last a lifetime.
I've spent some time at work looking around at the guys I work with who are going through divorces. I've listened to their stories and I don't want their story to become mine.
By no means am I suggesting that this is easy, but a healthy and thriving marriage requires hard work from both partners. Sometimes this hard work means each spouse laying down his or her arms and finally admitting, "It's not you. It's me. I messed up. How can we make this better?"
Though this solo stint has taught me a ton about my values and desires, it's also has given me time to think about thethings I absolutely need in a partner.
I haven't felt "sexy" in years. It probably sounds sad to some, but I really haven't missed it. I know it's no one's fault but my own. I can't blame my husband for not making me feel sexy when, in truth, I haven't really wanted to feel sexy.
If you really feel distant or angry, these are often easier options, and they can start changing your perspective for the better so that you're in a more tolerant and positive place when you do try to engage with him in the future.
Our kids have grown into full-sized Homo Sapiens fully capable of feeding themselves. The time has come to let them do their own hunting and gathering.
"I'm not interested in dating," I replied to my dearest girlfriend when she mentioned the name of a man she wanted me to meet. She was visiting me in Honolulu seven months after I became a widow. Little did I know that day my life would change forever.
"I don't want to be married anymore." A whisper moved across my husband's lips as if he couldn't find his voice. A whisper, a barely audible cluster of words, were about to change the trajectory of my entire life.
Those years between 13 and 18 certainly weren't easy, were they? It's amazing that we got through them. Some of us got through them relatively unscathed, while others are still self-conscious about the very issues that we got teased about back then