Stop focusing on what you don't have and start developing what you do have. Your sacrifice is only meaningful if you use it as a springboard to positive actions that keep you on track. The more love you give, the more you'll receive.
No one can tell you whether you should stay together or get divorced (although they'll definitely try to). But knowing these four things can help you figure out where you are in the process, what's possible and give you some signposts to help you on the next leg of the journey.
Ultimately when it comes to marriage whether it is arranged or not -- true love in a marriage develops over time and is not about lust, attraction or how much time you have known this person -- rather it is when you cannot see your life without your partner for better or worse.
You can't fit new love into a heart that's already full of love... or something else, any more than you can fit a new wardrobe into an already over-flowing closet.
Why is youth better than age and wisdom? It's not. We only think it is because we all "drank the Kool Aid."
You round a corner and you are here. And you begin to cry a little when you realize that it will not be fancy and there will be no amuse bouche and most certainly no Michelin star chef and that you are supremely overdressed. And it could not be more perfect.
When people hurt or frighten us and the differences between us erupt in anger, we have an opportunity to practice and strengthen these qualities.
This probably isn't what our grandmas had in mind. Yes, we all have degrees. Some of us are well traveled. We have nice things too. We might also own homes and make a really nice salary. Sure, these things are fantastic. Having the choice to obtain them is key. They need to be part of the buffet, but we should start to shift towards balance earlier on.
Was surviving our sojourn an achievement worth noting on a resume? And more importantly, am I so terrible a travel partner as to note mere survival as a successful outcome? This would require serious thought.
The stress of parenting overwhelmed me long before I became a parent, starting with a series of fertility tests, for which, unlike the SAT's, there are no tutors or Kaplan course to help.
When couples love each other, they think they'll move in together and agree on basic living arrangements. Unfortunately, it's easier to love someone than to live with them.
Smarts, a sense of humor, a good heart and a willingness to go through the rough parts of life are the relationships that are able to withstand the very many unsexy moments of real life. And the knowledge that great relationships take work. The good kind of work. The rewarding kind.
The truth about love is that it can happen at any moment. It can happen right away, like it did for my mother. It can happen in five years, six months. Or it can happen in just two weeks.
I worry that we are so used to jumping in and out of relationships that we don't even know what's worth fighting for anymore.
I know how it feels when the people in your life do crazy with unparalleled proficiency and panache. Sometimes it seems your only option is to unleash a well-deserved mix of rage, inarguable criticisms and the list of how you do the whole living thing in a superior fashion.
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