Working through an affair is tough. It takes tremendous energy and vulnerability on both sides. If your marriage has taken a back seat, it may have died a slow death.
Freedom and independence in my marriage started with me not taking my husband's last name and has continued to be important to me. When I got married 29 years ago, I was insistent on the wedding vow passage where it states that when we join in marriage we still remain as two separate individuals.
Sex not only promotes intimacy between partners and strengthens their bond on a physical level, but it can also boost self-confidence and increases happiness thanks to the many endorphins released at climax. And remember, it feels great too!
Start paying attention to your home giving it the TLC it deserves and you will quickly see order and balance spilling into the rest of your life. With spring approaching, commit to making some changes.
The quality of our employer-employee relationships is downright dysfunctional. The primary reason for this is that we're doing too much shifting and not enough elevating.
Feeling all warm and gooey because your spouse had a great time banging someone else is not something we're socialized to feel. We can be thrilled for our partner if they get a raise or promotion, but why can't we be happy for our partners who find joy in bed with someone else?
While some people will remain opposed to same-sex couples getting married -- just as a dwindling handful still oppose interracial marriage -- every sign exists that marriage will go away as a political issue. Most conservatives, even dedicated culture warriors, will simply move on. The marriage issue isn't going to turn into a replay of the abortion issue.
A diagnosis will bring out the best and worst of you and your partner. It has the potential to tear your relationship apart or bring you closer together more intimately than you could have imagined. As the saying goes, it's not about what happens to you, it's about how you respond.
She notices Antonio, asks me, "Oh, is that your husband?" An innocent enough question. I say, "No, he's my boyfriend." The word so clumsy in my mouth. How can I have a boyfriend when I still feel like someone's wife?
At the time, I was in my 30s and he was in his 50s. I was well aware that he had children who were my age. Likewise, he knew that while I was in high school, he was already married and established in his profession.
I understood, finally, the verses in the hardbound books in the back of the library, the subdued music in the way the words come lilting off the tongue when they are read aloud. And I began to whisper those verses to myself.
Is it a utopian daydream to imagine a relationship where your partner has your happiness in mind and vice versa, instead of each of you fighting for your own needs? It's worth a try. After all, it's far more satisfying when someone else scratches your back than when you try to scratch it yourself.
I'm on a roller coaster, the huge swells have passed, for now, but I know there are more to come. Seventeen years, two children, three moves -- it's a history, a life together. But I will find my new normal, and I will make sure my children have one as well. I'm human, but I'll do my best.
It's easy for a woman to lose confidence is this world of online dating if they're not careful. I suggest to my clients, to view it as a business. Do not invest your emotions too fast until you are sure this is the right position for you.
I knew the honeymoon had to end sometime. But I was still shocked the day I realized my wife had become a sort of business partner in the enterprise that was our family. Careers, kids and endless logistics had squeezed out our passion.