I remember a time, about two years ago, when my throat was so sore that I could barely breathe, never mind talk, without it hurting. I woke up to find my youngest, Peter, standing over me.
No matter the length of your engagement, your wedding was a day of celebration and future promises. Unless your wedding was completely void of tradition, your vows probably included something close to the following:
A healthy sex life is a key ingredient to a happy, loving, and lasting marriage.
In fact, I am learning that the less I worry about the way we divide up the heavy lifting of being married, the more I feel like it seems pretty fair. And it feels like we can give and sacrifice with less effort and to take with less guilt.
The holidays are over and it seems as if 2015 will be a challenging year for you. All of you are headed for a divorce, which is hard enough, but you also have young children.
As we look to the new year, we often focus on ways to be "better" -- resolving to do more of what's good for us and less of what's not. To (at least most of the time) come from our best. For a good many of us, finding ways to have a more satisfying marriage is high on our list.
There is a family I know well, and there are four daughters, close in age and the best of friends. Now check out this hilarious photo they posted recently and then gave me permission to write about the back story.
Here I was. Judging my young daughter for mindfully dreaming of being a single mother. It is crazy because, for me, being a single mother was one of the best times of my life. Sure, I could have done without the eating-only-rice-and-beans-for-months-on-end part, but the rest was pure magic.
I used to think that divorce was one of the worst things that could happen to me. Well it happened to me, and I'm still alive and kicking.
I'm committing to three things in 2015 to become a better lover, partner and husband to my wife: active appreciation, taking responsibility, and telling the truth. I didn't always do these things, but I've discovered a direct correlation to better sex, fun and closeness in our relationship.
How would you define happiness? For many people, it comes as a result of external events such as a relationship, a job, winning the lottery, buying a...
Something big's going to happen in Florida next week, we just don't know what yet. The Supreme Court is going to examine multiple marriage cases in early January. And new polling shows support for marriage higher than ever.
The Supreme Court will decide shortly whether to review and decide a marriage equality case before its current term ends in June. Many are praying for this, eager to wrap up an issue long past the tipping point that folks are sick of discussing. But there is a more important reason the Court should act now.
When I returned to my childhood church, he struggled -- just like I struggled when he gave up all attempts at spirituality around the same time. But we made it work.
The secret to staying together is staying together, but more than that it is caring enough to see the world through someone else's eyes and saying, I see you. Not just the bluster or hubris, but the soft core inside that is oftentimes hidden from the harshness of the world. I see you.
Parents keep a variety of secrets in an effort to protect their teens but it is my strong belief that teens are old enough and mature enough to hear the real family stories. And, perhaps telling family truths is yet another unwrapped gift that you can give your kids for Christmas.