Hey, how's your midlife crisis going? Mine's great, thanks for asking. I can no longer read anything on my phone, my teeth are cracking by the day, I question every decision I've made since I was 21, oh -- and this is key -- I've taken to wearing a flower in my hair. Why? I have no idea,
Months ago, when the separation from my husband was still fresh and raw, I joined an online dating website. I know. I know.
One fall day in September 2001, I lost almost everything I held dear when I stumbled upon an email not intended for me. In it, I learned that my then-partner of six years, "Rob," had broken the commitments we'd made and that, in fact, I'd been lied to from the start of our relationship.
Lately there has been a lot of debate about whether a "good divorce" is better than a "bad marriage," for the sake of the kids. I think we're forgetting about the third option: if you are in a bad marriage, and you have kids, how about doing whatever you need to do to make the marriage better? For the kids' sake.
Rather than take emotional responsibility for her own well being, Wendy was making Terence and her children emotionally responsible for her. She was abandoning herself, just as her parents had abandoned her, and was expecting Terence to give her what she never received from her parents.
When a marriage is terminal, but not yet dead, the days and months are riddled with ambiguity, uncertainty, ambivalence, fear and shame. It's usually a time where hope that the marriage can be salvaged mixes with the despair that it's over.
When you're in love, it feels like nothing else matters. It's so easy and seductive to let your life go -- your friends, your interests, your beliefs, your hobbies. I get it. It feels good and it's fun and smoochy and yummy. You don't need anyone or anything else.
Many women complain about their husbands being passive, not initiating activities, laying around watching TV or clicking around on their computers, and overall not appearing to have much drive or passion.
You need a healthy fear of marriage like you need a healthy fear of the ocean," a friend poignantly remarked the other day.
The seductive glow that a stranger can elicit is thrilling. Polyamorous people call it 'new relationship energy.' The sudden affirmation that a newcomer finds you desirable is a real high.
Have you ever felt frustrated with our culture's current model of acceptable relationships- that is, monogamous pairing? Realized that in our world of social networking, we're losing real, close connections to others?
If you plan to get married please be willing to open your soul up. Communicate your inner most dreams and desires because those unfulfilled desires are what become resentments and anger.
My parents had always been less than stellar when it came to boundaries. With the divorce, however, the closeness has become too close. Some things are better left unsaid. Some secrets are better left hidden. The hardest thing about being an adult is the realization that, really, all adults feel like children.
It is your standards of happiness, love, values, personal development and responsibility that set your course in life. Have the courage to think as big as you can, expect nothing less than the best, and most importantly, be kind. Here are seven ways to exponentially elevate your quality of life.
You will be doing a service to both yourselves and your partners in dialogue if you share the conversation. Your relationships will likely improve in quality and last longer if you tweak your communication skills.