Preparing yourself individually to be healthy in mind, body, and spirit will prepare you for a healthy relationship in the future.
Rather than fret you'll one day become a statistic, why not work on protecting your marriage instead?
The normal in one "culture" and the normal in the other "culture" can sometimes differ greatly. And, it can be a bit of shock to stumble, sometimes rather jarringly, upon these cultural differences.
The most important thing is to support each other and go through this as a team, which will keep you close and connected. That appears to be what Kim and Kanye are doing.
If a person goes into their backyard and sees a huge bear three feet away from them, a few things may happen. Either they will be frozen in fear or run back into the house, or they will attempt to fight off the ferocious animal. This traumatizing event now becomes a part of the person's life and stays with them for years to come.
There is a difference between seeing your partner positively and expecting things from one another that you simply cannot consistently deliver.
The covers. I didn't give these up so much as they were stolen from me. I swear, my husband tucks himself in under the blanket, and then grabs hold of the edges and rolls until he's wrapped in a cocoon, leaving me shivering and glued to his side searching for his escaping body heat.
In the past, marriage was primarily about property and procreation whereas today the emphasis is on egalitarian partnership, companionship and love. In the past, the state and most religions did not recognize divorce, remarriage, interracial marriage or the equality of the marriage partners.
Should you marry that guy? Should you take that job offer in Seattle? Should you go back to school? For many people, important decisions like these are sources of dread and anxiety. They dominate our thoughts during the day and keep us up at night.
I always knew that after I had finished up a good romp in the hay with my husband, I glowed. The increased blood flow, the exertion, the release of endorphins. But what I didn't know was that having sex was helping me stave off the effects of aging.
It's an interesting experience, this being the partner with lower desire in a long-term relationship. In my case, the way this played out over two decades is that I fell into a routine of only having sex with my husband when he initiated.
You and your partner have a unique relationship. So why would you want to have the same marriage everyone else has?
Before the 20th century, only the wealthiest of the wealthy could afford diamond rings. One of the first recorded examples of a diamond ring was in 1477, when Archduke Maximilian of Austria gave one to Mary of Burgundy. After that point, diamond engagement rings became a symbol of wealth and prosperity, and accordingly, limited to the furthest arches of the upper class.
Compersion is an authentic feeling of pleasure that can't be faked, forced, or conjured up. It happens organically. It's like the spontaneous feeling I have when I see my kids thrive--I am overjoyed when they come home exuberant after having ventured out into the world.
We want to be the best mothers, partners, professionals. We have high standards we can't always meet. Making time for ourselves is a small choice that has a watershed effect on all other areas of our lives.
I figured there would be comments left and right about me, the terrible mother and person. "My daughter would end up not liking me," I thought, letting the worst thoughts run through my head. How could this go well? Guess what... It did.