Your spouse is not the same person now as when you met, and neither are you. Yes, there can be sadness in change, the loss of what was. On the other hand, some changes will be welcome.
Couples often assume that fighting and conflict are inevitable -- "normal," even, to be tolerated and managed, at best. They may not recognize that their diminished sexual and romantic life is interwoven with how and why they conflict as they do in their relationship overall.
Take care of yourself as a parent. Your kids are watching you. They need to see that life is worth living as an adult. It's hard for kids to be happy when their parents are sad.
At every wedding, you'll find the drunk uncle, the weeping sorority sister, the people who are only there for the food, the girl who really thinks she can dance and the girls who actually can't dance, but they can JUMP! A LOT!
Relatives peppered me with questions about when we'd finally full-on commit. The truth is, for a long time, I was in no hurry. We already shared an apartment, a dog, a bank account. How much different could marriage be?
Whether it's the first time their children are leaving, or time for them to return to a dorm room or off-campus apartment, the homes of these parents will suddenly be empty of stuff, of people, of noise, of activity. For some there's a sense of relief, while for others this is a heartbreaking and sad time.
Finding love is like shedding skin. We can't begin to embrace the new opportunities if we haven't completed the process of shedding those old habits. No one can do it for us -- we just have to do the work on our own and let things go when we're ready.
Relationships are by far our greatest teachers. When we are in love with someone we always have the hope this person could be the one that we spend our lives with. The greatest thing about each relationship we have is it serves as mirror for where we need to grow.
The stresses and strains of life such as career, raising kids and growing older, can deplete us -- or at the very least, distract us from the goal of sustaining an intimate, dynamic connection with our life partner.
If you do not want to be in the relationship without either oral sex or more sex or better sex or whatever, be direct. Do not be passive aggressive, stay in the relationship and be bitter and resentful, or, worst, be unfaithful.
Witnessing their parents tend to one another's needs every once in a while just might instill some patience and compassion. I don't see how that is selfish. In fact, it sounds like pretty stellar parenting to me.
We spent so much time sitting around hating the kind of parents/people we weren't while being angry at each other that we failed to invest even one second in our marriage and, even more importantly, ourselves.
The next time you read a controversial opinion article, instead of talking about "lynching" the author or what "gauge" shotgun you're going to use when you shoot him, maybe present a better idea to solve the problems he's trying to address.
Could I have loved my wife forever? In this moment, thinking of the time just before she told me she'd already consulted with a divorce attorney, I have an unequivocal yes. I was still madly, somewhat painfully, in love with my wife of 11 years, and single partner for 13 years.
Whether you go off the rails in public, tell your in-laws the unhappy truths of the marriage, or take a golf club to your ex's car, you're in danger of losing your dignity and self-respect. Nothing wrong with advocating for yourself, but ugly behaviors do nothing but demean you. Here are the top five ways to your better divorce.
If you've seen the trailer for The Theory of Everything, the forthcoming film about Stephen Hawking and his wife Jane, you may have felt your heart swell and eyes tear up. After all, their story is filled with love, dedication, groundbreaking science and inspiring teamwork.