With honesty comes the security to trust each other. In turn, trust allows us to enter the state of vulnerability that creates intimate space in a romantic relationship. Somewhere deep inside of all of us, we cherish this connection.
Lies manifest as a woman's quest for reprisal, a way to avoid being evaluated and found wanting. Yet, even with an understanding of this behavior, the question becomes, when is it simply wrong to lie? When is the lie harmful, not helpful -- when is the gig up?
"Which side of history will you choose?" The Supreme Court's answer to that question will be seismic, but the American people's answer is pouring in and they are rushing to choose equal rights over traditional bigotry.
We're unequivocally in favor of marriage equality. But this lower "level" of commitment has been worth something in its own right to us -- not just for the health benefits, but for the ways it helped us see exactly what we wanted from our relationship.
Pamela Milam was on to something that could spark water cooler discussion and since April is Counseling Awareness Month, now is the perfect time to talk about a few things counselors might be noticing in their couples counseling sessions.
I'm making my own list of things you know by the time you're 50 and it's got just one item on it.
We must hold ALL elected officials and ourselves to higher standards of equality. We must break down the silos whether by community, issue or campaign. We must be bold, visionary and steadfast in our commitment to social and economic justice.
So, before you begin to preach about the sanctimonious nature of marriage, and how it is such a beautiful tradition that should not be tarnished by extending it to same-sex couples -- remember that it was not always that pure, religious or even civilized.
In short, after thirty-one years of marriage, although it sometimes feels like Paradise Lost, on days like the other day when he's in his white coat, Paradise remains. It takes me back to a boy who gave me a key attached to a roller skate and, suddenly, there's clarity.
If you and your partner don't address this problem, things can quickly go from bad to worse.
"The app says kissing is a form of sexual activity and that's an exercise," I countered. "By the way, if we ramp it up to 'active, vigorous sex' for three hours, we will burn 514 calories."
Over the past year, the work-family discussion has been injected with a massive shot of adrenaline. Much of the resurgence of interest has resulted fr...
The fact that people still believe that gays and lesbians can't marry is, in my opinion, an elitist discrimination borne of ignorance and who knows what else, perhaps an irrational fear of progress or basic human rights.
The dramatic turnaround in views about same-sex marriage says hopeful things about Americans' capacity for tolerance, empathy, and fairness, and about our willingness to prize family in all its forms.
The hardest, greatest thing I have learned since getting married is that my husband is first a person, second a man. I grew up hearing that men and women are so different. Opposites. Things about venus, mars, and spaghetti.
You're constantly looking at top wedding blogs, pinning has become your second job, and your wedding coordinator is on speed dial (or, if you don't have one, then you feel like you're ready to become one). But you can never fully anticipate the wedding day until (gulp) it's finally here.