He broke into chatter most nights, within 10 minutes of falling asleep. Even worse, his subconscious mind seemed stuck on his exes: He detailed having sex with previous girlfriends and even recited one former flame's phone number.
With 50 fast approaching, we knew we wanted to escape the safety and security we were taught was normal, and pursue life on our terms instead. We no longer want what most consider to be the safe route. We no longer want to live risk-free.
Dating can be very frustrating. You spend time, money and emotional energy trying to find "The One" and most of the time you wind up being disappointed. Then, you have to go back to the drawing board, hoping that the next one will be better.
Ben Franklin (Yes, the Founding Father whose face is on the $100 bill) had lots to say about sexless marriages, including this bon mot, "Where there is marriage without love, there will be love without marriage."
Taking the attention off what is forbidden, and putting the focus on what is actually happening in my relationship is a healthier situation that fosters growth and passionate connection.
Don't lie. She will find out. When you break trust with a woman; you rock her very foundation. Don't change the rules and pretend that you didn't. Don't make her think that she is crazy to protect your lies. Really. Don't screw with a woman's internal GPS.
After three children, our relationship doesn't sound like sizzling oil at all. In fact, it sounds more like a sad trumpet. What would our wedding vows look like now after 8 years and 3 children together?
Do you only have five minutes to make your wife happy per day? No, you probably have more, but it's a good thought experiment to show that even tiny increments of time can make a huge difference in your marriage.
It would be easy to let these kids swallow us whole if we let our guard down for half a second. They are young and needy right now, and it would be easy to save everything marriage-related for after bedtime. It would be easy to let them destroy Us on some days.
I am still in love with the person I married back in 1984. A person who today is a she. I have witnessed true joy in the person I've grown a life with -- a person whose blue eyes shine because she feels right in her own skin.
Last month I had a mild midlife crisis after dancing in a gay club with attractive, sweaty young men who humored me. I came home a bit disgruntled by the sexual stasis in my long-term marriage with the most interesting (and loving) husband in the world.
Some of you have been around the block enough times to know where to avoid the mud and dog poop or when to stop and smell the roses. Others, however, refuse to try a better path so they continue to trip over the same obstacles.
Political and religious leaders opposed to marriage equality have been ramping up the intensity of their rhetoric in the weeks leading up to the Supreme Court's imminent decision on the constitutionality of state laws banning same-sex couples from getting legally married.
Well, given the general tone of your letter, it sounds like you're certainly still suffering from anxiety. No shame in that. In fact, over 18% of Americans suffer from an anxiety disorder. Why not go back on your meds?
Marriage equality is flourishing across the United States, yielding more same-sex weddings than ever before. But unlike "traditional" straight couples, same-sex couples have no templates or roadmaps to fall back on when planning their nuptials.
I sat in on a writer's group last night in Brentwood, Tennessee and was delighted to make the acquaintance of one wiry 83-year-old, retired educator who had a treasure of stories to share. One in particular caught my eye, so much so, that after receiving his permission, I'd like to share it with you.