It's much easier to have self-control when we're away from any temptations. So I made it a point to create some rules for myself at a time when I was not subject to the temptation of chess, while I was out for a walk.
Being compassionate doesn't mean that we don't address issues that need to be addressed, like consistently poor performance. Sometimes the most compassionate thing we can do, which would be in the best service of all the stakeholders, is to let someone go.
Last week I had the honor and privilege of interviewing Miller. We discussed his new book The Heart of Leadership: Becoming A Leader People Want to Follow, which sheds light on the question: What Makes Leaders Different?