Whatever kind of person you are, believe it or not, your messy child is not trying to be disobedient. They're not out to get you or tire your organized soul. Their messes have a wide range of possible meanings. Take a gander at a few.
Who could blame us for wanting people to notice when we do something nice? But what if we keep our kindness private, shared only between us and the person we care about at that moment? That is something I would like to see.
There's something troubling about the use of the word "relationship" that excludes all relationships but romantic ones. All other adult relationships aren't just excluded in the wording; they're absent from the studies.