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3 Reasons Never To Argue With Your Ex

Kari Cornelison | Posted 06.20.2012 | Divorce
Kari Cornelison

While most divorcing spouses do not fundamentally desire the additional pain and expense of a court battle, many wind up in a divorce war without ever understanding what triggered it.

8 Secrets To A ‘Good Divorce’

Eileen Barker | Posted 06.11.2012 | Divorce
Eileen Barker

If you want a "good divorce" -- one that is amicable, based on mutual cooperation and fairness -- don't leave it to chance. Here's eight tips for obtaining a good divorce.

The First Person To Call When You Decide To Divorce

Nancy Fagan | Posted 05.30.2012 | Divorce
Nancy Fagan

When you decide to take action and get your divorce started, your first call should be to a divorce mediator -- not an attorney. Attorneys are trained to litigate, not mediate.

How To Avoid Harmful Battles In Divorce Court

Robert Hughes, Jr. | Posted 05.27.2012 | Divorce
Robert Hughes, Jr.

Almost everyone involved in divorce becomes frustrated by the legal process. Both mothers and fathers feel like the system works against them.

The USA Network Is Double the Fun On Friday Nights

Jackie K. Cooper | Posted 05.16.2012 | TV
Jackie K. Cooper

Friday nights just got a lot brighter entertainment wise with the return of Fairly Legal and In Plain Sight on the USA Network.

Can High-Conflict Couples Make Shared Parenting Work?

Robert Hughes, Jr. | Posted 05.06.2012 | Divorce
Robert Hughes, Jr.

Increasingly, parents and the public are in favor of shared parenting arrangements following divorce. Although shared parenting arrangements still represent a small amount of the total arrangements, they continue to increase.

8 Meditation Books I Can't Live Without

Thirdage | Posted 02.16.2012 | Fifty

There are so many meditation books on the shelves that it can be overwhelming. But based on the love of friends who provided me with some, and my own ...

Is This The Worst Way To Announce A Split, Or The Best?

Abby Tolchinsky | Posted 04.11.2012 | Divorce
Abby Tolchinsky

As a divorce mediator and lawyer, sometimes I feel like I've heard it all. I am terribly hard to shock. And yet, yesterday something shocked me: a divorce announcement via email.

The Big Secret Divorce Lawyers Know (And You Should Too)

J. Richard Kulerski | Posted 04.07.2012 | Divorce
J. Richard Kulerski

What do divorce lawyers do in their own divorces? They try to stay out of court.

Lessons Learned From Boiled Frogs

Alison Patton | Posted 03.06.2012 | Divorce
Alison Patton

I recently heard the "boiling frog story" for the first time. It goes like this: a frog will jump out if placed in a pan of boiling water, but if submerged in cold water that is heated very slowly, the frog won't jump out and will actually allow itself to be cooked to death.

Do Older Couples Divorce Better?

Abby Tolchinsky | Posted 03.05.2012 | Divorce
Abby Tolchinsky

While all couples contemplating divorce experience more than a measure of sadness, anger, perhaps fear and certainly disappointment, young couples, with short-term marriages, no jointly held assets and no children tend to negotiate intensely over "the stuff."

How Lawyers Can Sabotage Mediation

Henry Gornbein | Posted 03.04.2012 | Divorce
Henry Gornbein

The problem in some mediations is the attorneys. A good attorney believes in mediation and will encourage it as a tool to try for a settlement on an amicable basis

Lessons From the School of Hard Knocks

Don McNay | Posted 03.04.2012 | Small Business
Don McNay

After nearly 30 years of helping people with their money, I figured out long ago that financial issues were rarely about rates of return or asset allocation. Money is usually about emotions. Most of the time, people are using money to buy something that is missing in their lives.

Meditate on Your New Year's Resolution for Greater Success

Susan Morales, M.S.W. | Posted 03.02.2012 | Healthy Living
Susan Morales, M.S.W.

We all know habits are hard to change, but each year it's a tradition on Jan. 1 to try to do something differently. Our intentions are heartfelt. We've thought through what we want. We're motivated by our suffering or our desire to be better in some way.

How To Get A Divorce In The New Year

Abby Tolchinsky | Posted 02.20.2012 | Divorce
Abby Tolchinsky

Holiday season and another new year often accompanies a good deal of soul-searching and taking stock on one's life. For some this leads to divorce, or contemplation of a divorce.

The Top 5 Reasons NOT To Go To Divorce Court

M. Marcy Jones | Posted 02.03.2012 | Divorce
M. Marcy Jones

If you are thinking about going to court to win custody of your children or to prove your spouse is a terrible person, think again.

Why Mediation Makes Sense

Bari Zell Weinberger, Esq. | Posted 01.28.2012 | Divorce
Bari Zell Weinberger, Esq.

The divorce process can be an expensive proposition. In uncertain financial times, like we are currently experiencing, it is even more crucial to find ways to help reduce the burden of divorce, both emotionally and financially

The Most Important Person To Hire In Your Split

Nancy Fagan | Posted 08.21.2015 | Divorce
Nancy Fagan

Mediators are like the nurses of the divorce world. Mediators are to attorneys what nurses are to doctors.

What Halloween Can Tell You About Your Marriage

Nancy Fagan | Posted 12.24.2011 | Divorce
Nancy Fagan

Like all things preventative, if you can detect relationship problems early on, you have a better chance of fixing the relationship before it dies.

Can Your Divorce Lawyer Answer These 9 Questions?

Diana Mercer | Posted 12.24.2011 | Divorce
Diana Mercer

There is a lot of incentive for litigation attorneys to blow sunshine up your skirt and tell you what you want to hear.

What Do The Kids REALLY Think About Your Divorce?

Robert Hughes, Jr. | Posted 12.11.2011 | Divorce
Robert Hughes, Jr.

There has been a steady stream of scientific findings indicating that children whose parents do not resolve their marital conflict have difficulties adjusting.

When Enemies Love And Serve Each Other

Tihomir Kukolja | Posted 11.26.2011 | Religion
Tihomir Kukolja

How could talking about Jesus directly be constructive at a peace-building conference with participants from numerous faith backgrounds -- Muslim, Protestant, Catholic, Orthodox, atheist and agnostic?

The Problem With Prenups: Part II

Laurie Israel | Posted 11.02.2011 | Divorce
Laurie Israel

In mediation, the couple formulates the terms of the prenup, face-to-face, with the assistance of the mediator. Unlike "lawyering up," they are modeling communication, collaboration, and mutual understanding and respect in coming to the terms of the prenup.

The Problem With Prenups

Laurie Israel | Posted 10.30.2011 | Divorce
Laurie Israel

The anger and hurt generated by the prenup process will always be remembered, and can weaken a marriage at the outset, even if the prenup gradually changes and becomes more balanced and narrowly drawn.

Is Your Attorney Sabotaging You?

Henry Gornbein | Posted 10.04.2011 | Divorce
Henry Gornbein

I was in court this morning on a hotly contested divorce. We had been in mediation the night before and it looked like everything was blowing up. I ...