Yoffe mentions that she's spoken with a three recent college graduates who were the survivors of assaults. Great. But after I spoke with dozens of current and former students who survived sexual violence, I have a much different take than the solution being these women should drink less.
We will never achieve gender justice and close the safety gap without boys and men standing beside us. I know many men believe in equality, some are activists and allies for change. Every day I appreciate the work they do. But there are simply not enough of them.
What if we turned our gaze to see men and boys as potential champions of the rights of women -- allies in the building of a just, peaceful and tolerant society? We would have reclaimed a truth that a few individuals tried to steal away.
The real question isn't if men are more or less violent. The real question is whether or not men have control over themselves. This idea, who is in control of whom, is fundamental to how we understand and deal with violence, especially with gendered violence.
Where is the equivalent of the scale of the Chris Brown response for Too Short? Whereas I do not think all portions of Chris Brown's scrutiny is helpful to a journey of reform, Too Short's video is not nearly receiving as much attention.
Good men know that women writing about women getting hurt is not a statement that men are never hurt. It's not a statement that women are all perfect. It's simply a statement about stopping violence against women.