One of the first times I saw him after our separation, he was in a new pair of jeans and a new shirt. I don't know why this bothered me, you guys. I can't even explain how irrationally upset I was by this. I remember thinking, "Did he buy this for a date?"
It's a big blue ocean full of all different types of fish out there. You have sharks and piranhas, clown fish and angelfish, sea snakes and bottom feeders. It's a vast, limitless pool of blue; so in the end, all you can do, is just keep swimming. Just. Keep. Swimming.
Do you know when you have a feeling that somehow you have just connected with another person? I had experienced that feeling only once before and I was very aware of when and how it had happened and I was certain it was happening again, with him.
Let yourself feel all of these feelings. Live day to day, trying to grab every ounce of enjoyment out of every day that you can. For me, that means anything having to do with my children and my family, and of course, enjoying the passion I have for my work. This is the way I've been living my life since my divorce, and it works.
I had no say in how my parents broke our family down; no chance to say it was too loud, too messy and too sore.
Having such strong feelings about another person shook me to my core. It made me re-evaluate my beliefs. I learned what it was like to really care about someone. Everything I had believed, everything I stood for, suddenly disappeared. I found a whole new world opened up for me.
The person you fall in love with should enhance your life. He or she is supposed to make you smile more than you frown. They ought to make you feel great about yourself. They should fascinate you, amaze you and of course, make you very, very happy.
Here's an ironic thing about love: People who are frantically searching for it do not usually have much success at finding it. Likewise, people who are awesomely single often do not stay that way for long (unless they choose to!).
Cultivating resilience in the face of adversity is something a Jedi does quite well, and I am all about it.
The greatest gift people who don't approve of us give us is a more defined idea of who we are and who we choose to be. If we start changing who we are to gain approval, we lose ourselves.
How this list makes me laugh now! Fourteen years, one failed marriage, and two beautiful children later, I know that relationships are about so much more than meeting the requirements on a checklist.
Keep expecting the best and visualize and write down what qualities you are looking for in your soul mate, but don't drive yourself bonkers, get out and do something constructive or fun, who knows you might bump into them!
Men take a lot of flak for their obnoxious ticks and disgusting habits, but admit it ladies, putting up with us isn't all rainbow-colored unicorns galloping off into the sunset in a field of glitter, either. Women will argue this until the day we die, but the truth is, we have no fu*king clue what we want.
A first date is pretty much a sexualized job interview. You spend a ton of time getting dressed, carefully considering what each article of clothing you choose might say about you.
Having a purpose gives you something to bring to the table which shows maturity, responsibility, commitment and a desire to make a difference. Being interesting and self-sufficient is extremely attractive.
Okay, I saw it. For you, gentle readers, I was tortured for two hours of my precious time and went to see Fifty Shades of Grey, the film. All I can say is I was more disappointed than anticipated... and we all know I had very low expectations.