The next time you are overwhelmed by divorcing, repeat after me: "Yes, this is traumatic. Horrible. But it isn't terminal. It's actually a bump on the road of life that just might give me a second chance at a whole new dream."
Thanks to Facebook and my blog, most people already knew I was divorced. No one asked me if I was married. No one asked where my husband was. And while I did discuss bits and pieces of the divorce with a few people, I never once felt less than happy about where I am in life.
My son discovered the luminous blue bicycle on his fifth Christmas, next to the tree. That cold morning, I led him along living room and dining room circuits as he got the hang of riding on two tires, with a lot of help from training wheels. He was still years away from any possible attempt at the Tour de France...and his only performance-enhancing drug was the exuberance of a little boy.
The fact that you are even reading this post should be evidence enough for you that your relationship is heading down an unhealthy path. But since coming to that realization can be scary on your own, allow me help ease you into accepting your potential breakup.
When my 20-year marriage ended a year and a half ago, I knew I needed to stay single for awhile. But because my ex-husband and I had been so mismatched sexually, and because I had no intention of being a nun until I fell in love again, I was eager to have sex.
Never seek approval, as in "I want to go out with you, I hope you like me." Whether your first or fifth, the date is much more likely to be successful when you are true to who you are and not seeking approval from others.
Breaking off a relationship is a giant suck sandwich with a nightmare filling of pain, guilt, fear, rejection, remorse, pity and self-loathing.
Dana and I broke up Labor Day weekend when I caught him in a lie. It wasn't the first, but I swore it would be the last. I asked him to leave the hous...
It is very important that the growth we, women, are experiencing serves as a vital reminder of the intelligence and muscle that was put forth on our behalf by men who, ultimately, opened the first doors to us and continue to do so.
I play this game when I am drinking. I find the most absurd looking man or woman and whisper, "That's my boyfriend" to the nearest person with ears. No one gets it. I love it.
When Alternet picked up my post on casual sex recently, I got eviscerated in the comment section -- by men and women. I was accused of being a bad influence on young women, particularly my daughter. I was told my cavalier attitude about sex was symptomatic of the decline of morals in this country,
We all look at failure, be it in love or business, as a negative thing. But if we turn the glass around and look at it from another perspective, all these failures are essential and are the springboard to the success we have today.
The male position is not the neutral position. It has a point of view, the male point of view, which not everyone shares, and which is not always superior. So please, stop announcing that Landon Donovan is the "all-time U.S. leading goal scorer."
In our culture, men historically have been trained and expected to be aggressive, competitive and hierarchical. Male self-worth has been based on embodying those qualities and on being a successful breadwinner
Educational campaigns have been aimed at the young and as a result 20 and 30-somethings know the rules: condoms for casual sex and full sexual health checks when they move on to exclusive relationships. However, many over-50s feel uneasy about visiting sexual health clinics, despite the fact that they forget about using condoms, because contraception is no longer an issue.
There's a great myth that's been hoisted upon all women that "dating" is fun. I'm convinced it's a conspiracy crafted to guarantee an ongoing form of economic revenue; women are forced to buy new clothes and makeup while men are lured into exorbitant restaurants to prove their merit.