Little, yet fierce. That's precisely how Emily Dickinson, a poet first appeared to me in the pages of an anthology when I was 11-years-old. She would appear again later when my life was splintering away in trauma due to divorce (and I felt like eleven again).
I have interviewed numerous couples that have been married for anywhere from 20 to 60 years, and they have all had one common denominator... it was easy.
When couples marry for the first time -- increasingly in their thirties -- they aren't saying "'til death do us part" any more, but making up their own conditional standard of commitment, like, "as long as we love."
Do all sons want to be "better" than their fathers? Do all fathers want the same for their sons -- that they grow to be "better" -- or do they secretly, perhaps unconsciously, always want to be someone their sons can look up to in every which way?
Everyone has baggage and everyone has needs. How you work through your thoughts and present issues to your partner is what will determine if your relationship is healthy.
What you do to pull me through the reaction, the positioned postured action of devolving, evolving spiraling down to the bottomed out triangulation- That's your action... Reaction.
We've all had it with ice and snow -- it's time for sun and sand! Escape for a few days of warmth by the sea, and attire yourself accordingly from any of the stores below.
I can honestly say that from what I've seen, men and women going through a divorce experience hatred that runs so deep, it's frightening. I would imagine the reason for the hate is because they care so much. Think about it. People who don't care don't show or feel any emotion. They just shrug.
Keep this in mind come this weekend, when love is in the air, couples will engage in their mid-winter ritual celebration of Hallmark mandated love, and singles will be looking for some semi-romantic weekend hookups.
Sex in the late 70s was a big deal. The only thing my friends and I worried about was losing our virginity. Today, in 2015, we as a society still think of ourselves as being into sex. But honestly, we're not. We're mostly done with sex being number-one in awesomeness. Let's look at what happened.
Valentine's Day is coming, and if the oncoming barrage of heart-shaped paraphernalia has you massaging your attributes like worry beads, I'd like to suggest an alternative. What if instead of parsing yourself into a bunch of pleasing qualities, you honored the mass of humanity you are?
Last summer U.S. News and World Report quoted a survey finding that people involved in affairs spend an average of $444 per month on them. This includes such things as hotel bills, meals, and activities that they engage in with their extra-marital partners.
I've had many a great Valentine's and New Year's night alone. I was completely content to eat what I wanted to eat, watch what I wanted to watch and enjoy my own company on December 31st, February 14th or any other day of the year.
Male and female sexual fluidity are expressed in ways that may not yet be showing up on paper. If a guy marks a box on a survey saying, yes, I've been attracted to another man, or, yes, I've had sex with another man in the past year, it may not be at all the same thing as when a woman checks the same box.