All of my favorite shows had white or white-ish characters. All of my heroes were white. All of the "people" that made me laugh were white. All of the people I looked forward to seeing on TV were white. I mean back then this was not really thought of as a big deal. It was the way of the world.
There is a difference between seeing your partner positively and expecting things from one another that you simply cannot consistently deliver.
I have almost all new friends now, at 51. The ones I spent so many years with -- bound together by our children's friendships -- scattered like dandelion seeds to the wind when my marriage ended. Only Ebola instills more fear of contagion than the divorce of a friend whose marriage seemed perfect.
Let's save the busy excuse and start hurting people's feelings... I mean, start being honest. I think most would agree that a second of rejection is better than weeks worth of useless persuasion. Let's be real.
When we said our wedding vows or made our commitments to our partners we never imagined that one day we'd be facing separation and divorce. We never imagined having to date again. That was my experience anyway. Yet, after the ending of a 20-year marriage, I picked up the pieces again.
While society is quick to label us in nearly every way, the way we label ourselves is much more telling.
There is a word I hear a lot from men and women getting divorced. Actually, they refer to themselves as this word, and I have to say, it really really really bugs me. The word? LOSER.
He would also edit my writing, organize my closets and plan adventurous weekends at outer-borough museums and trips to Hindu temples. He was, in short, my dream man. So could a real committed relationship work?
I grew up with the Internet and social networking, so online dating feels, somehow, more natural than walking up to a good-looking guy in public and saying, "Hey, I'm Tom. How's your week/end going?"
Starting a new life after divorce introduces many financial challenges. Retirement may seem far away, but it should stay at the top of the list.
No matter what the two of you do, if other people aren't involved, you are bored out of your skull and staring at the same Instagram feed you looked at two minutes before.
While most people don't expect that these applications often see the light of day, the truth is that they do. You cannot rely on the broker or anyone else who tells you not to worry about what the application states. In many situations, including divorce court, that application can end up costing you plenty.
I recently had the most fascinating consultation with a gentleman who was interested in the possibility of my representing him as his lawyer.
Traditionally, fathers and daughters have struggled to regain the connection they shared when the girl was very young: the time of shoulder rides and tickle attacks. But fathers are learning to be role models for their daughters throughout adolescence and into adulthood.
I can see the pupils dilate and the wheels begin to turn when people find out that I'm married to a gynecologist. My husband commenced his OB-GYN residency two weeks after we got married 23 years ago. I've heard it all and then some.
I hear a lot about the importance of honesty in relationships, but I'm a believer in telling kind or polite lies. Honesty can hurt sometimes, and doesn't always leave a winner, instead just making both parties lose. So here are the lies I think you should tell when dating.