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#Midlife

The Secret of the Hairy Leg

Elaine Ambrose | Posted 07.02.2015 | Women
Elaine Ambrose

I was 12 when my mother sat beside me, nervously cleared her throat, and gave this serious admonishment: I was never to shave my legs. I solemnly nodded but neglected to mention that I secretly had been shaving for more than a year.

Heroes and Mentors... Especially in Midlife

Rebecca Perkins | Posted 06.23.2015 | Fifty
Rebecca Perkins

Midlife can be a time of great flux and turbulence. We can feel quite isolated, unsure if others are feeling similar things or if it's just us.

5 Truths To Help You Survive Midlife

Elaine Ambrose | Posted 06.20.2015 | Fifty
Elaine Ambrose

Some of you have been around the block enough times to know where to avoid the mud and dog poop or when to stop and smell the roses. Others, however, refuse to try a better path so they continue to trip over the same obstacles.

10 Things You Should Never Ever Do In Midlife

Lori Osterberg | Posted 06.19.2015 | Fifty
Lori Osterberg

As we travel through life, we regret many things. We regret jobs we didn't take, moves we didn't agree to, relationships we didn't pursue. Yet by the time we reach midlife, we have something we didn't have when we were younger ... we have perspective.

Napa Valley in New York? You Bet!

Cathy Chester | Posted 06.18.2015 | Travel
Cathy Chester

Sometimes life gets in the way of our best laid plans. It's been awhile since our family has been able to take a vacation. We finally got away for a few days and I'm eager to tell you about a place that's not only beautiful and accessible, but also restorative for the soul.

Why We're Spending Way Too Much To Look Young

Susan Krauss Whitbourne | Posted 06.17.2015 | Fifty
Susan Krauss Whitbourne

Why does having a bad hair day make you so miserable? How much will you spend to prevent one in the future? Research suggests the prime reason is that hair maintenance helps us control how we appear to age.

At Midlife, Let Your 'Cougay' Come out!

Joe Kort, Ph.D. | Posted 06.10.2015 | Gay Voices
Joe Kort, Ph.D.

Embrace being a Daddy or a Cougay! It's a big world out there, and someone will find you attractive, your accumulated experience valuable, and your personality charming. Having father energy and playing with it can be very fun.

13 Surefire Signs You're Turning Into Your Mother

Valerie Albarda | Posted 06.06.2015 | Fifty
Valerie Albarda

Your parents. You may think they have little to do with the person you ultimately turned out to be in life, but they are certainly responsible for creating you. Many of their innate qualities are coursing through your genes as well.

5 Ways To Engineer Your Own Transformation

Tim Peek | Posted 06.02.2015 | Fifty
Tim Peek

By midlife, most of us are experts at 'going through' things -- going through divorce, going through layoffs, going through child rearing, illness, accidents or whatever life has thrown our way. Life has had its way with us; we've survived, but not necessarily thrived.

Why All Of Us Over 50 Should Take A Cue From Caitlyn Jenner

Sharon Greenthal | Posted 06.01.2015 | Fifty
Sharon Greenthal

It's not just that Caitlyn Jenner looks good. It's the amount of courage she has to have to put herself out there, first on television as a man, and then on the cover of Vanity-freakin'-Fair as a woman. And not a young woman, either. Jenner is 65-years-old -- midlife, but approaching her senior years.

The Husband Bonus: Better Than an Empty Bag

Elaine Ambrose | Posted 05.29.2015 | Comedy
Elaine Ambrose

A recent article in The New York Times described the unbelievable lives of women who marry rich men and live in the Upper East Side in New York City. The author lets her pinky finger down long enough to write torrid tales of year-end bonuses paid to the women for excelling at their wifely duties. I missed that memo and married for love.

7 Things Women Without Children Want Moms To Know

Hélène Tragos Stelian | Posted 05.23.2015 | Fifty
Hélène Tragos Stelian

I had lunch recently with a new friend. In the midst of our 'getting to know you' questions, I asked if she had kids. She responded 'no.' The moment was uncomfortable. I felt awkward for asking. We moved on to another topic. This discomfort stayed with me.

5 Spectacular Ways You're Failing At Midlife

Valerie Albarda | Posted 05.22.2015 | Fifty
Valerie Albarda

Look at you -- you've made it to midlife. Now is the time to revel in the fruits of your labor, celebrate each glorious day and make this life one for the record books. Before you move too fast, heed the warning signs that tell you if you're failing spectacularly at midlife.

20 Ways To Legally Evict Your Houseguests

Elaine Ambrose | Posted 05.21.2015 | Fifty
Elaine Ambrose

I'm thrown into a panic when I know guests will spend the night. I gather clutter into garbage bags and toss them into the garage where they languish for months. I frantically dust and am amazed at the true color of the furniture.

Trying To Find The Light At The End Of The Depression Tunnel

Rebecca Perkins | Posted 05.17.2015 | Fifty
Rebecca Perkins

My intention in writing about depression is to share my experiences frankly and openly in the hope that something inspires or supports another going through their own hell. Depression is a serious illness and one that sadly carries a huge stigma. It frustrates me that people are fearful.

The Seven Dwarfs of Midlife

Elaine Ambrose | Posted 05.14.2015 | Comedy
Elaine Ambrose

Snow White is the fairy tale most likely to cause the need for lifelong counseling: You're so beautiful that your mother wants to kill you and eat your liver, so you run away to live with seven tiny men. Serious medication/chocolate/wine is required to deal with such a story.

Odd and Curious People You Meet at a Book Signing

Elaine Ambrose | Posted 05.12.2015 | Comedy
Elaine Ambrose

The momentary glamour was offset by the reality that I made enough money to pay for my gas to drive back home. But I did meet some interesting characters.

Women, Aging and the Badges of Midlife

Valerie Albarda | Posted 05.13.2015 | Fifty
Valerie Albarda

My veins are angry," I thought, their blueish-green tinted pathways bulging under caramel skin that I think belongs to my mother, not to me. But these hands are mine.

Why I Have A F*cK It List In Addition To A Bucket List

Kathy Gottberg | Posted 05.11.2015 | Fifty
Kathy Gottberg

The very first thing on my F*%k It List is not caring what others think about me. I've cared about that for far too long and it's time to just say "F*%k It!"

The Struggle That Only People With Glasses Understand

Cathy Chester | Posted 05.09.2015 | Fifty
Cathy Chester

I've worn glasses for almost 50 years and I still don't like wearing my thick lenses in public. At midlife I should be over this already. I mean, I've made peace with so many things by now that I think it's time to put this behind me.

This Is How Women Can Become More 'Visible' In Midlife

Rebecca Perkins | Posted 05.06.2015 | Fifty
Rebecca Perkins

There used to be a time when women of a certain age were respected and held in high esteem. They were recognized for their wisdom and their intuition. They were the keepers of stories. They were the nurturers and caregivers and they were honored for this. Over time that changed.

The First Motherless Mother's Day

Elaine Ambrose | Posted 05.04.2015 | Fifty
Elaine Ambrose

I should have played her favorite music, opened her scrapbooks and patiently listened as she attempted to say words she couldn't remember. I should have combed her hair again and brought her costume jewelry. I should have stayed longer.

A Handy Guide to Rate Your Doctor's Bedside Manner

Susan Krauss Whitbourne | Posted 05.04.2015 | Fifty
Susan Krauss Whitbourne

The older we get, the more likely it is we need doctors. Finding the best physician, or other healthcare provider, can become a challenge no matter what your age. It's particularly challenging for midlifers and beyond, however. You may be older than your healthcare provider, have more complex medical issues, or be used to a model of care that is no longer followed today.

Avoiding Social Vampires: A View of Life from the Doughnut Aisle

Dana O'Dell | Posted 06.30.2015 | Healthy Living
Dana O'Dell

it must be hard to see the beauty of life when you're stuck in the same rinse and repeat cycle of settling and feeling like you have wasted your life. It's hard when relationships aren't like you dreamed and you wake up in a life day after day that feels like it's for nothing. We all get knocked down. Being knocked down in life hurts.

10 Key Things I Learned While Dating After Divorce

Rebecca Perkins | Posted 06.29.2015 | Fifty
Rebecca Perkins

When we said our wedding vows or made our commitments to our partners we never imagined that one day we'd be facing separation and divorce. We never imagined having to date again. That was my experience anyway. Yet, after the ending of a 20-year marriage, I picked up the pieces again.