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Miscarriage

Why I Did 7 Rounds of IVF

Tina Donvito | Posted 06.20.2015 | Parents
Tina Donvito

Why would any sane person go to such extremes to have a baby? And if the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over while expecting a different result, does that mean I was nuts?

Imagine You Are Infertile

Lauren Casper | Posted 06.20.2015 | Parents
Lauren Casper

Imagine finally seeing a little plus sign after so many negatives. Imagine the dreams and plans you make. Imagine beginning to put together a nursery and picking out names. Then imagine leaving the maternity ward of the hospital with empty arms and an empty womb.

The Clothes That Hid My Loss

Katia Bishops | Posted 06.19.2015 | Parents
Katia Bishops

I remember everything I wore. The unfathomable dichotomy between inside and out. I was wearing my optimism dress leaving the fertility clinic that morning, carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders and a huge question mark in my belly.

When You Miscarry Early, It Still Matters

Rachael Clarke | Posted 06.16.2015 | Parents
Rachael Clarke

It matters for every woman who has lost life within her, who has lost the promise of a precious baby in her arms, who has felt like she should be quiet about her story. Because, really, we don't talk much about such things. We should.

You're Still a Mother on Mother's Day if You've Had a Miscarriage

Robin Cassady | Posted 06.15.2015 | Parents
Robin Cassady

Recently, I was asked if it would be appropriate for a man to buy his wife a Mother's Day gift even after the loss of their unborn child.

The Things We Leave Behind

Christine Organ | Posted 06.07.2015 | Parents
Christine Organ

The plant may have been a memorial to our pain and grief, but over time, it came to symbolize our strength and resilience. Despite our pain, or maybe because of it, Matt and I grew infinitely closer as a couple during that time.

Men Have Miscarriages, Too

Ann Zamudio | Posted 06.07.2015 | Parents
Ann Zamudio

I never once stopped to ask my husband how he was handling the loss. After all my introspection and self-discovery, the one thing that escaped my notice in the weeks after the miscarriage was that it wasn't my loss -- it was our loss. I am not alone in making this mistake.

I Had A Miscarriage At Work

xoJANE | Posted 06.04.2015 | Women
xoJANE

Although the fear and confusion of that moment have since faded, the profound sense of loss lingers very close to the surface and that's okay. It's okay to be sad about losing something you didn't want. It's natural to be frustrated when your right to a decision was bypassed.

Even 'Easy' Losses Are Difficult

Christine Skoutelas | Posted 06.02.2015 | Parents
Christine Skoutelas

No matter how much I believe that my grief is silly or my grief is selfish or my grief is self-indulgent, my grief doesn't care. I can squash it down for a while, or tuck it away in a corner, or rub it raw with my joys, or scrub it clean and sparkly, or run far away from it, but for some reason I can never seem to rid myself of it, not completely.

How I Turned My Miscarriage Into Something Good

Ann Zamudio | Posted 05.30.2015 | Parents
Ann Zamudio

When someone asked me why I wasn't feeling well, I told them I'd lost our first child. When an old friend asked me about the pregnancy that I'd announced so early, I told her it ended in miscarriage. And the most amazing thing happened -- the world didn't end.

Being Grateful for What Followed My Miscarriage

Robin Cassady | Posted 05.27.2015 | Parents
Robin Cassady

Losing a child during pregnancy or after birth at any time can change your life. I chose to allow it to strengthen me and teach me what to appreciate and be thankful for.

It Took A Miscarriage For Me To Realize My Marriage Was Over

Divorced Moms | Posted 05.23.2015 | Divorce
Divorced Moms

Pain rushed through me, only it wasn't in my stomach, but my heart. Was this really happening? Did he just walk away?

It's None of Your Business How Many Kids I'm Having

Tina Donvito | Posted 05.17.2015 | Parents
Tina Donvito

Asking the question presumes a lot. It presumes that the woman is not currently pregnant. It presumes that she is not currently experiencing a miscarriage. It presumes that she's not experiencing postpartum depression and is emotionally ready for more children.

Our Silence Only Strengthens Our Suffering

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 05.16.2015 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

If you stay silent, I can pretty much guarantee it will be difficult to find the support and love you will so need in this lifelong journey of loss and recovery.

Men Speak Honestly About The Pain Of Mourning A Miscarriage

HuffPost Live | Ryan Buxton | Posted 03.04.2015 | Parents

When Jeremy Littau's wife had a miscarriage, he was told to be strong for her, but he had no idea how to process his own reaction to the loss. Aft...

What It Took For My Husband And Me To Become A Family

Christine Haughney Dare-Bryan | Posted 05.03.2015 | Parents
Christine Haughney Dare-Bryan

When does a family become a family? Does it start when a couple adopts its first dog? The day a child is born? The moment the wheels lift off the tarmac on the flight home with an adopted child?

How Safe Is Abortion?

David A. Grimes | Posted 03.03.2015 | Women
David A. Grimes

Abortion opponents routinely claim that abortion is unsafe. They do this by cherry-picking studies, citing obsolete literature, extrapolating inappropriately and misinterpreting results.

What I Do When I'm Having One of Those Days

Kathy Radigan | Posted 05.02.2015 | Parents
Kathy Radigan

I know in my heart that the best days I had before I knew the four most important people in my life can't even hold a candle to my worst day being a wife and mom.

We ALL Need the Village

Kindness Blog | Posted 04.27.2015 | Good News
Kindness Blog

Here's the thing: I've spent an evening broken to pieces, with my spirit in shreds, because of some of the things I've seen or heard about, which show where the village has failed.

Shoes and Life

John Roman, Ph.D. | Posted 04.27.2015 | GPS for the Soul
John Roman, Ph.D.

I never cared much for shoes. They are utilitarian and prosaic. I was always a construction boots and running shoes kind of person.

What Is Active Acceptance?

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 04.25.2015 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

I actively work my acceptance of my life without kids, but do not be confused by the word acceptance. Definitely do not miss the words actively work.

Powerful Comic Reflects On The Pain, Grief And Silence Surrounding Miscarriage

The Huffington Post | Caroline Bologna | Posted 02.23.2015 | Parents

Artist Ryan Alexander-Tanner hopes his new comic will help women wade through the physical and emotional pain of miscarriage. Alexander-Tanner was...

I Found My Voice When I Became a Mom

Kathy Radigan | Posted 04.21.2015 | Parents
Kathy Radigan

I was a shy, insecure young woman. The dyslexia that made school and life so hard made me an extremely cautious person. I was terrified that if I opened my mouth, people would discover just how stupid I was.

Out of the Woods?

Tamar Henry | Posted 04.19.2015 | Women
Tamar Henry

When you have a history of pregnancy loss, you are hyper-aware that you're never out of the woods. You know that anything can happen in the first trimester or after.

Welcome Chaos

Jennifer Lizza | Posted 03.31.2015 | Parents
Jennifer Lizza

I felt fear that we might never experience the chaos of everyday life with children, that our house might never be filled with laughter other than our own. I cried thinking I may never trip over a toy on my way to bed or have a teddy bear to pick up and put away.