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Miscarriage

The Loaded Question It's So Hard For Me To Answer

Krista Pelton | Posted 01.21.2015 | Parents
Krista Pelton

We can separately have children, just not with each other. You have to really love your spouse to hear that kind of news.

I Lost My Baby Just Weeks Before He Should Have Been Born

Catherine Kelly | Posted 01.14.2015 | Parents
Catherine Kelly

What I have learned from this horrific loss is that I am stronger than I ever knew. I have learned not to take life for granted, and that every moment with loved ones is a gift.

Making a Family Just Isn't That Easy - Part 3

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 01.10.2015 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

When it comes to family planning, fertility, infertility, miscarriage, infant loss and recovery, there really can't be too much love.

Is 'The Handmaid's Tale' Science Fiction -- Or a Preview of 2016?

Jesse Kornbluth | Posted 01.10.2015 | Books
Jesse Kornbluth

One way or another, you've heard of "The Handmaid's Tale." For decades, the title has been feminist shorthand for the kind of future that's likely for women if Christian fundamentalists have their way.

He Is My Son -- Not My 'Baby'

Jennifer Ross | Posted 12.30.2014 | Parents
Jennifer Ross

If I knew someone who had suffered the loss of their teenage child, I would never say, "I'm sorry for the loss of your teenager." What a terrible thing to say, right? I, in no way, want to sound like I did not appreciate the love that other people gave me, but I do want to educate on the respectful way to speak to a parent after they suffer the loss of a very young child.

IVF Confessions: in Defense of Egg Freezing

Renée Whitworth | Posted 12.30.2014 | Women
Renée Whitworth

The only time I was not in treatment from 2008 until 2011 was when I was pregnant or recovering from a loss. And with all these appointments came countless disappointments.

Life After Losing a Baby: Kate's Story

Healthy Birth Day | Posted 12.30.2014 | Parents
Healthy Birth Day

October is infant and pregnancy loss remembrance month, a time every year I reflect upon my life after loss.

Conceiving Our Chosen Family

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 12.28.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

Never could I have imagined I would find myself, my home and my destined chosen family all from a woman I met online.

It Happened to Me: Infertility Treatments Didn't Work and I Defined My Own Motherhood

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 12.27.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

We must give ourselves permission to make our own family, however that may look. And, as a society we must all have more fertility compassion for whatever those means are.

Mom Bares Her Soul About Pregnancy, Body Image, Loss And Love

The Huffington Post | Caroline Bologna | Posted 10.23.2014 | Parents

For the past five months, video website StyleLikeU has been interviewing women while they slowly remove their clothes for its "What's Underneath Proje...

My Cause Is Better Than Your Cause

Cindy Brandt | Posted 12.21.2014 | Impact
Cindy Brandt

There is a phenomenon of what I call, "First-World-Problem-Shaming," where we make people feel bad about their anxieties because somewhere in the world children are starving.

The Day My Life Changed Forever

Deborah Cruz | Posted 12.16.2014 | Parents
Deborah Cruz

I could not say it out loud because then it would be real and then my baby would be dead. The promise of our baby would be broken. Life would be different. I would be different. It would all be less. I would never get to hold my baby in my arms because my baby was gone.

Loss is Loss and Comparison Only Leaves Us Alone In It

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 12.16.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

Does it hurt less that I have lost three, but she has lost five? Does it hurt less that you at least got a couple of years with him? Does it hurt less that she lived a longer life and mine never grew?

Why My Miscarriage Was a Miracle

Taraleigh Weathers | Posted 12.15.2014 | Parents
Taraleigh Weathers

Most of the things you aren't supposed to say are the things that made me feel better. After reading that, I thought for a moment, Maybe things don't happen for a reason... then what the heck is going on?

he Storm That Follows a Lost Pregnancy

Tina Donvito | Posted 12.15.2014 | Parents
Tina Donvito

The snow did indeed come, and as we hunkered down at home I was glad the world was howling along with me. The storm was an aberration against nature, just as losing my baby was. Snow in October is not supposed to happen. Losing your baby is not supposed to happen.

5 Ways Pregnancy After a Miscarriage Is Different

Meredith Hale | Posted 12.15.2014 | Parents
Meredith Hale

A miscarriage is a scar that never fully fades; no matter how much time goes by, a shadow of that loss always lingers.

A Story of Pregnancy Loss

Kelly Fig Smith | Posted 12.15.2014 | Parents
Kelly Fig Smith

Many of the feelings I experienced soon after our loss were expected: sadness, deep grief, anger. But what surprised me most, and what I wasn't prepared for was the shame -- the overwhelming feeling that I had failed in the way that mattered most, and that it could never be forgiven.

Three Is The Magic Number

Lauren Stevens | Posted 12.09.2014 | Parents
Lauren Stevens

The doctor left the room, and I went in to use the bathroom, the sound of the woman in the adjoining room's healthy baby's heartbeat echoing off the cold tile.

I Can't Share Your Joy

Sarah Warman | Posted 12.07.2014 | Women
Sarah Warman

I see the updates. I see the newly posted pictures of a growing belly. I see the pictures of a nursery that was tirelessly decorated. I have the same pictures. But you'll never see them. It's not because I'm ashamed of my belly or because I'm an awful painter or decorator. It's because I didn't get the happy ending.

Stretch Marks of the Soul

Jessica Zucker, Ph.D. | Posted 11.30.2014 | Parents
Jessica Zucker, Ph.D.

I'm trying to figure out how best to honor my pregnancies -- all three -- and the body that housed them. They don't necessarily need to be emboldened in my postpartum size and I guess stretch marks of the soul are the stretch marks that aren't readily visible to anyone other than me.

Should We Have A Third Child?

Aaron Gouveia | Posted 11.29.2014 | Parents
Aaron Gouveia

I don't know if we'll have another baby. That will most likely involve IVF and all the risks, effort, and potential for disappointment and heartbreak that carries with it. But at the very least, I now have an answer to the question.

The Club You Never Want to Be Part Of

Ana Mayer | Posted 11.19.2014 | Women
Ana Mayer

I won't tell you to hang in there. I don't expect you to cheer up just because people keep saying encouraging things to you. I actually will say the opposite: you are allowed to be sad, frustrated and even angry.

How to Deal with the Pain of Miscarriage

Alexis Meads | Posted 11.12.2014 | Women
Alexis Meads

It was such a gift to realize that I was not alone. So many women have miscarriages, even ones who have healthy babies now. It is nature's way. And it can also be a cleansing process to have a healthy pregnancy going forward.

Magic

John Roman, Ph.D. | Posted 10.29.2014 | Parents
John Roman, Ph.D.

The thing about loss is that it's not a dark, brooding presence. Not like in the movies. Not in reality. Loss hibernates.

My Son Died So I Could Live -- But His Legacy Continues To Bloom

Jennifer Ross | Posted 10.25.2014 | Parents
Jennifer Ross

Deep down in the depths of my soul, I knew that his purpose in life is being fulfilled. This isn't a fact that is easily accepted. My soul knows something that my earthly body continually fights.