As you have witnessed on MobWives, the term "friend" is used way too loosely. To my surprise, some that I have considered friends have morphed into a straight-up enemy, or this emerging new breed of "frenemies."
Wasting time is wasting life -- and we need to stop taking life for granted and live in the here and now. Don't wait for it to come to you. Go get it -- and stop living for any or everyone else. Live for YOU.
It's a big step to take after being insecure but if you have faith, put your worries, doubts, fears and insecurity in the hands of a higher power. In return, you will be taught how to love yourself unconditionally all day, every day.