For women in the Otherhood, the term I introduced in my book of the same name for those who aren't part of the expected social norm of marriage and motherhood, whether by choice, or like me, by circumstance, our friendships are key.
Standards aren't the problem. Standards are great. When you have standards, it allows you to set goals in your life and hold yourself accountable. The problem is that people have the wrong standards -- ones they don't require of themselves.
The romantic fashion of the 1900s can't last forever. Already, the traditional marriage imperatives have crumbled on us... Now, maybe the wobbly romantic foundations of marriage are getting revised, too.