Live your messy life and don't apologize for it. Don't scrub the ink off your toddler's arms before you Instagram it or move the dirty pile of laundry in the background. Because your real life moments are a beautiful mess.
The tooth fairy only brings a quarter. There is no adjustment for inflation. Your birthday cake will probably always come from the store, as will your Valentine's cards for school. I didn't buy baby moccasins because the ROI on that investment was one good Instagram picture.
We live in a time when we can Google everything, share ideas and expose our children to amazing opportunities, but anyone that implies that they have it figured out is either drunk or lying (or both), so don't be too hard on yourself.