I have to figure out how to stand in the median when it comes to love. I have to learn to accept that people cannot always live up to my expectations and won't, and that should be okay. I also need to learn to stop thinking that when one falls short, that that's it. It's over. Instead, I need to breathe. Find ways to bounce back and recover. Not hold a grudge.
It's a delicate balance; finding a marriage that works and exciting, adventurous sex. But how does one cross the line and venture into the stormy seas of an "open marriage" without losing the safety of a monogamous partnership? Is sex with someone other than your spouse really worth the risk? And how do you even bring up the topic?