Never send an email that says "What do you charge?" or any other form of that question. Sure, you need to know the costs to see if you can even afford the vendor -- I get it. But you aren't picking up a pair of shoes here.
If I had a dollar for every time someone told me that their aunt or mom's best friend 'did' weddings, I'd be able to retire. People attend weddings and don't realize how much work actually goes into making them successful.
The problem is that even when it comes to planning a happy occasion like a wedding, it can be very difficult to take feelings and treat them like inanimate objects -- you can't just put them in a drawer or lock them away for a period of time.
Are bridal attendant and guest expenses getting out of control? If you are mother of the bride or mother of the groom, how do you feel about these costs for friends and family members? What would you do about it?
Whether it be a very short engagement or one that lasts for a year(s), once it is over, it is over. And it is best to ensure that the relationships endure -- especially the bond you have with your mother.
Brides tend to forget how emotionally invested mothers can be as her little princess gets married. Momzillas come in different shapes and forms, but all need to be regarded carefully as to not risk the relationship between mother and daughter.
Jon picked out his wedding attire in a half hour. I've devoted several all-day shopping trips to my wedding outfit and I'm still not done. Jon feels sorry for me. All that shopping. So many trips to the mall. So many trips into San Francisco. I feel even sorrier for Jon.